Sir Sneaky

[rednest]

I didn't write about my mother in-law right, but that's ok. Whatever. Thanks for the encouraging words ladies. I talked to her more about it and N gave her hell about it and set the boundary - no more talking to H about her body. He said he felt like since they are his parents he should be the one to have to do it. I felt good that he wanted to

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[minneapolismama]

Maybe accepting yourself includes defending yourself?

Sorry I'm a little slow to respond here in MN--we've been away from the internets and stuff. That was SO wrong what she did and said to you! Who the fuck does she think she is? Oh, yeah, your mother-in-law.

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[sophiapaloma]

I have such mixed feelings about fat. Sometimes I wonder if there is a conspiracy to make women feel ashamed about womany things with themselves, like there is supposed to be feminism and stuff, which in part I agree with, but little by little, the womanyness in woman is made to be wrong. Nursing a baby for more than a few months is gross to many people, and the squishy stuff that our kids like to rest on, our soft bellies, the evidence that we can create new life is turned into something that should go away, just make sure there is no evidence that you actually gestated and birthed your children and can hold enough fat on you to keep nourishing for a long time. You create life, you make nourishment to feed the life you create. It's like the part of you that shows such strength, such transformation, is something of which the evidence should be destroyed. Heaven forbid we have pride in something men can't do. We become stronger and softer. It turns into self hate not because we have done anything wrong, it is that we are in this