(Not quite) danger stranger.

[retro_geek]

When strangers approach you in public- specifically, when you are a female travelling by herself and the stranger in question is a man a lot bigger than you are- how polite do you feel compelled to be, and how long before you can reasonably tell them to bog off? Travelling to a friend's gig the other night, I boarded the tube at Totteridge&

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[xandratheblue]

No, he wasn't being friendly. His best option was that he was hitting on you, worst option was that he was hoping to groom you for semi-consensual sex. You had ever right to be scared, and I wish I knew what behaviour to exhibit when you want a man to fuck off and GO AWAY, but whether or not he saw you as a cute girl he wanted to get to know better or an easy target, he had NO RIGHT to keep talking to you when you made it clear you didn't want to talk and had NO RIGHT to keep staring

[pulse_fairy]

personally i just say 'i'm sorry but i don't want to talk/be disturbed.' if it starting to annoy me. and then i move seats. or get off that carriage and get on another one or a different tube. its hard when yr a woman to just be rude but sometimes you have to. i get it a lot because of how i dress but i have just perfected a really nasty 'don't talk to me.'

although this guy sounds pretty harmless tbh, for some men from certain cultures western girls are quite shocking. either way, not a chance worth taking.

[anonymous]

I've had similar experiences on the tube (mostly with men from other cultures.(I am quite a big girl so I tend to "score" with them rather than men of my won nationality) and persistance does make you feel uncomfortable, so I think you were right to be wary.If they wont take no for an answer I know it is annoying but I tend to get off and wait for another tube. I got flashed at once when on a train by myself so have been a bit wary since....

[lolita_fielding]

that last comment was me by the way.Forgot to log in like some sort of foolface....

[loveonice]

He sounds creepy. That bit about trying to sit next to you....hmmm. Defo creepy.

[hipdipcat]

ohmigod, i seriously would've been freaking out!! that guy sounded like a sick creep and i'm glad that you were able to get away from him with no trouble! i was in a similar situation before, i got up and changed seats on the bus, he did the same, until i just headed down the aisle to the bus driver and sat near him until i got off.