Outside of my immediate family, I don't feel required to get gifts. I get gifts for the people for whom I see something and go "oh yes, exactly that". But I also like to make gifts for people.
I love getting presents. But I don't have any expectations, not even about who is going to get me a gift. A gift is a gift and I'm going to be pleased no matter what it is.
However, I definitely value time over presents. I would much rather you come out and see me then get a gift. I like you, not the potential you hold to give me things.
I always found Christmas really stressful at home- not because I was worried about getting people things, but because my mother always made her self sick over not being able to give us the christmas she wanted to give us. Which was always so frustrating because neither me nor my brothers particularly want anything. A gift or two is great, but we seriously don't need a mountain of gifts all worth hundreds of dollars. I mean, I remember writing letters to Santa and always asking for just one thing each year (to be fair, I always knew I was getting more things than that, and I was always sure to get the thing I wanted most- tactics!), but even when we were irritating preteens we knew that we couldn't always afford to pay the bills or rent, so really anything at Christmas was great. Her worrying about giving us a great christmas actually took the fun right out of things
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Oh, I also hate it when people (read: my dad) spend a lot of money on me. Be it birthdays or Christmas or whatever. It makes me uncomfortable. Especially when I know they are spending money they don't really have. I DON"T NEED THINGS! I am not being all self sacrificing, or whatever, I just don't care about having people spend money on me. Well, I do care, but in a "please don't do that" kind of way.
I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND. Just the other day I was stressing because I wasn't going to finish anyone outside my family's xmas gifts on time, and I was thinking that I'd have to stay home from parties to finish the gifts for this 'deadline'. And then I realized: Isn't xmas about SPENDING TIME with friends and family? And then I thought Screw That. I am going to parties and get togethers, and maybe my gifts will be a little late. Whatever. But the will be made specially for you! I'm not rushing just to get some half-assed gift out for a specific day.
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I love getting presents. But I don't have any expectations, not even about who is going to get me a gift. A gift is a gift and I'm going to be pleased no matter what it is.
However, I definitely value time over presents. I would much rather you come out and see me then get a gift. I like you, not the potential you hold to give me things.
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