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[rhianna19]

My "sister" Bri is moving back in with us. At the moment, she's living with my brother, supposedly helping him get a web company up and running. The official story is that she's moving back in with us because he can no longer afford to support her. Unofficially, I've heard tell that it's because she spends about three hours a week working, and the

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[erebos]

I definitely don't mean to make excuses for her, as I know it's infuriating behavoir, but Bri sounds *severely* depressed, if not bipolar. That reads as laziness or overindulgence, at times. The sleeping and reverting are huge clues.

She doesn't need to be coddled, true. But she may need more compassion than you think.

[rhianna19]

You're right, and I've known it the whole time, but she refuses help. She has no medical insurance, so my parents have offered to pay for therapy, counseling, drugs, anything she needs. They (and I, back when I still had a job) also offered up the money for her to legally change her name so she could get a job, which is what she said was the only thing holding her back, but it never happened

[erebos]

Well, compassion she needs, but you can do that without coddling. Just let her know you understand she's not being a lazy, common slob. LOL. Still, it's easy to resent her state -- you just have to remember, her depression is beyond yours now, as it's clearly debilitating. We're talking another sphere entirely. Might she be willing to talk to someone professional

[rhianna19]

Oh, she knows she can talk to me without judgement. Everyone does. Every now and then, a friends' PARENT will call to talk to me about problems they have