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[rialc]

Well, things are going much better since my last post. I am doing well, and despite having the worst morning ever! I am quite happy with my life right now. I could sure use to be doing better in school, but I don't attribute that to Brian at all, actually, I would blame work first. I am still completing all assignments and studying as I ought, I

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[ewee]

Yeah, let me just say that any truely healthy dating relationship must involve the family of the involved persons as much as possible. If you feel it is too soon for us to know about it, it is too soon to be dating him. Just my two cents.

[ewee]

I am glad that you are glad...I just don't like that you are not filling in at least the parents...

[judsonson]

And why would the family have to be involved from the get go? I mean, it's nice for the parents to accept whomever but in theory, the family responsibility at a point is to be supportive of the decisions their children make. It's a different world once you get out from under the roof of your parents and it's hard to explain in truth if you haven't done so. The idea of giving my parents a detailed listing of my friends would be a bit silly; and, in continued theory, initial dating is not but an extended friendship. If the soon-to-be happy couple decides to hold off on shouting to the world about it, one should respect those thoughts and feelings for there's generally reasoning behind it. Sometimes you don't want to go through the whole rigmarole with the parents until you know more about where the relationship might be heading. She's happy and that should be enough for now.

[ewee]

My comment was coming from a strictly Christian view of dating. From what I understand, you are not a Christian, so chances are you wouldn't agree with what I said. But, according to what most Christians believe, dating is not ment to be just an "extended friendship" as you put it. Dating is strictly to find out if the person you are interested in is someone you could marry. Anything less than that should remain in a friendship so as to keep the emotional part out of your getting to know one another. The more emotional you get before really getting to know the person, the harder it can become to really tell what the person is like

[rialc]

Thank you both for your input. Elyse, I do understand where you are coming from, and having grown up in the same house as you, I appreciate what you are trying to say. However, you do not know the circumstances. You have never been in any relationship except that most perfect one that you are in now! What if I bring him home to mommy and then he dumps me tomorrow? There are ryhmes and reasons galore that I do what I do. Just because you are privalaged to read my lj, doesn't mean you know everything that is going on! If you want to know more, there is a very simple solution to that problem. Ask me

[ewee]

First, my relationship isn't as perfect as you think it is. We have hard times, and other things that make it not so perfect. I don't pretend to know all that is going on, but it seems to me that if the fear of him turning around and dumping you for no apparent reason is there...why on earth are you giving him your trust and dating him? For the girl who seemed so ready to take on the Christian style of dating, aka, courtship instead of just casual dating, it just seems sad that you would give it all up just because you are "on your own" or being an adult.

[rialc]

Who said I'm casually dating anyone? Quit passing judgement on a situation you know nothing about!