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ricgrywlf

A true WTF moment...

Feb 14, 2009 09:22

So, it was druidchick birthday on Wednesday and we had not made any plans to celebrate other than Saturday (sushi at Sushi King) so I had tentative made plans to get take a 'friend' out on Thursday. Well, druidchick and I were talking about the upcoming week last Sunday and she tells me that she 'might' want to go out on Thursday as a part of her birthday celebration ( Read more... )

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mistressfetch February 14 2009, 14:59:02 UTC

my two cents :-)
I'm having "communication" issues with a male friend of mine and we seem to keep going down this path. I think it is because of email. It's easy to read into things and also misread as well. Maybe you should just call her and talk it out on the phone. That way there is no miscommunication. If she still has the same outlook/opinion then yes, maybe it's time to do some friend dumping.....hugs babe..

ricgrywlf February 14 2009, 21:44:24 UTC

Normally, I would agree with you. We had misunderstandings because of email before, BUT after I repeatedly told her that it was part of Sati's birthday celebration and she knew I was doing it because it was Sati's birthday, I don't see how she could still think that the plans she and I had made should take precident over any plans (no matter how last minute) involving a person's birthday. Does that make sense?

mistressfetch February 14 2009, 22:36:00 UTC

Yep! It makes total sense. Seems as if she doesn't understand boundaries. It sounds like she may have other feelings for you besides friendship. Hugs babe. Sounds like it is time to cut the cord.....

ricgrywlf February 15 2009, 13:38:05 UTC

Thanks, and Sati agrees with you. She has been jealous of Sati and our relationship since the beginning. This was just the straw that broke the camel's back.

chellebelle74 February 16 2009, 19:43:42 UTC

Eerrr.... yeah. You do not fuck with the SO's bday (or family bdays, those are another untouchable). It's just not done. Sounds like you'll be better off for a hand washing.

yeh... ricgrywlf February 16 2009, 23:43:18 UTC

One would think so too. I mean that I would expect any 'rational' and 'respectful' friend would be understanding and accepting of that kind of change in plans.

Unless she was expecting me to commit 'relationship suicide', none of what happen makes any sense to me. And what makes it worse is that she has made no attempt to apologize for her behavior.

So, I have pretty much written off the friendship and would be very leary/suspicious of any attempt she makes to repair the friendship.