I'm in a Hindu Tradition class this semester, and as some of the things we're learning are so oddly relevant to recurring issues in my life, I thought I'd write a little about it
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Well the point isn't so much that I sit around thinking of the unanswerable and mysterious and get worried about that, but that I sit around thinking of everything that is transient around me today, currently. There's certain people in my life I feel I'm losing, and to a point, I can't save it, and I shouldn't have to. Maybe it's okay for most people to become attached to others, because they can deal with it fine when it's gone or they never became that attached in the first place, or they don't become separate from people too often, but for me it's like, a real problem. In terms of the whole acceptance thing, it would only work if I just accepted suffering in the buddhist sense, which is well, I'd rather not accept that
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I guess when it comes to people you can do all that you can in hopes to salvage things or keep parts going, but there will always be circumstances that drive people apart. I've felt the way you've felt many times before - I'm sure everyone has. I've grown apart from a few people, but I can't say I didn't make an effort - sometimes people are just selfish, ignorant or don't really realize what they have or what they're doing (sorry if that sounds like a repeat from my original comment
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letting go of peopleprabhakarkudvaOctober 6 2004, 06:46:55 UTC
Unattachment is the release of need or expectation associated with a specific outcome.These Are the Rules.We become attached to the way we envision something working out, and struggle to make circumstances bend to our desires. Life, however, often has its own agenda, and we are destined to suffer unless we give up our attachment to things working out exactly as we would like.Being unattached does not mean being disinterested or emotionally removed. Rather, it means suspending judgment and responding more neutrally to circumstances. A parent can practice unattachment by letting go of tightly focused wishes for their children. Likewise, spouses can practice unattachment by being more flexible and tolerant of personality differences between themselves.
Re: letting go of peoplerichaOctober 6 2004, 13:39:27 UTC
that's a neat way to look at it, thanks.
though it seems that taking on a more neutral role implies a more passive role as well. how can we be active in what we want to attain if we have no goals, if we have no expectations for where we want to go with something? is it possible to neutrally arrive at desired ends, or should we not have any desired ends? and if we shouldn't, then what are we without our hopes and aspirations, in not only ourselves, but in the world and other people?
it is fine to practice suspending judgement on things that are really rather trivial, but what about those not only you deem nontrivial, but most anyone would deem nontrivial? is it really practical to just react neutrally to everything? if we are emotionally involved with people, we will be attached to them, and we won't want to lose them. i don't see how one can simply react neutrally to the loss of a loved one.
regarding your first question,the idea is to do one's duty,follow one's dreams and aspirations without WORRYING about the outcome.let go of negative thoughts and embrace the positive ones. as regard to people yes i do agree with you that it does become difficult to react neutrally to the loss of a loved one.but the point that i want to make is that you dont have to carry the negative thoughts with you.the crux of the matter is to remain unattached to NEGATIVE things.
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though it seems that taking on a more neutral role implies a more passive role as well. how can we be active in what we want to attain if we have no goals, if we have no expectations for where we want to go with something? is it possible to neutrally arrive at desired ends, or should we not have any desired ends? and if we shouldn't, then what are we without our hopes and aspirations, in not only ourselves, but in the world and other people?
it is fine to practice suspending judgement on things that are really rather trivial, but what about those not only you deem nontrivial, but most anyone would deem nontrivial? is it really practical to just react neutrally to everything? if we are emotionally involved with people, we will be attached to them, and we won't want to lose them. i don't see how one can simply react neutrally to the loss of a loved one.
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about the outcome.let go of negative thoughts and embrace the positive ones.
as regard to people yes i do agree with you that it does become difficult to react neutrally to the loss of a loved one.but the point that i want to make is that you dont have to carry the negative thoughts with you.the crux of the matter is to remain unattached to NEGATIVE things.
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