Comments | riven_008: Come sit on mah couch and tell meh about your mother

riven_008

Come sit on mah couch and tell meh about your mother

Apr 25, 2009 00:58

THERAPIST MOLLEH

Come tell me anything, anonymous or not, and I'll see how I can help you.

Totes stolen from Dez. ilu Dez.

i totally do tags now it's pretty cool, dez dez dez dez dez, cause baby there aint no mountain hiiigh

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anonymous April 25 2009, 05:16:11 UTC

I don't think I'm a very good listener, and I need to change this.

riven_008 April 25 2009, 05:48:16 UTC

Well, you've identified what needs improving, which, for all its clichedness is the first step and all. So this is good. :d

Speaking about commiserating with friends, it can be hard to know that a friend is having trouble with things, especially when all you can do is listen to them. It might be easier to tackle smaller problems first, build up to the big stuff. And asking for clarification to better understand what's going on helps both the speaker and the listener, I think. If it's an over IM sort of commiseration, "ffff" should sometimes be avoided for the dismissive attitude it gives (as I have learned through experience).

Um. /snuggle?

sparkly_nasta April 25 2009, 09:34:25 UTC

Everything in my entire life sucks.

GO GO GO !

riven_008 April 26 2009, 00:27:57 UTC

But you have a Molly! Does your Molly suck? D:

No okay being serious now. Merrr idk babe, I know my phone is like never on, but if you see me on AIM, you can always come talk to me if you need it. :< It sounded like you had good housemates, going to slightly-better school? Do you have chocolate? Hugs? D:

lightningreborn April 25 2009, 12:25:29 UTC

It rained on the day I was born and my life has never been right since :c

riven_008 April 26 2009, 00:28:38 UTC

THATS BECAUSE YOU SUCK AND YOUR ONLY PURPOSE IS TO LOOK PRETTY RAIDEN

NOW SHUT UP AND LOOK PRETTY

anonymous April 25 2009, 17:07:28 UTC

I create unhappiness just by being myself. I mean, not always. But I have a lot of friends who get really jealous of me when it comes to certain things. Several things, but today I will focus on romantic-y things. Because I always get a lot of attention. And it doesn't matter if I want it or not or how I respond, it still makes my friends feel like crap. Especially a certain friend of mine who is similar to me, but rather overweight. She feels that if she were thinner, she would get the same amount of attention I do...and, consequently, gets really unjustifiably angry with me and says things like the only thing I have to offer guys is my appearance and I don't know if she really believes that, or if it's just meant in anger. She's apologized for and dismissed the more blatant, "Fuck her. Fuck her," etc ( ... )

riven_008 April 26 2009, 00:56:15 UTC

Well, first of all, I wouldn't say it's your fault. You haven't done anything wrong, and you shouldn't feel like you have.

It's not fair of your friend to say things like that. Apologizing is good, but if the harsh words continue after a certain point, it becomes pretty useless. It's not that she's guilty for feeling bad about herself, or even angry at you; emotions are neither good nor bad, and shouldn't be judged. What matters is her actions, and instead of getting angry, her energy would be better put into improving how she feels about herself. Supporting her is good, but honestly, the harsh words are not okay.

As for the rooming predicament - has she said that she doesn't want to? Have you? Have both of you? Obviously it would be easy to change if you both agreed, but if not....nerggh, that's a little more difficult :x idk, if she's not going to be able to stop her angry words....you might have to confront her.

this was really hard, is it helping at all orz D:

anonymous April 26 2009, 15:59:20 UTC

The problem isn't that I've done anything wrong or believe that I have, the problem is my inability to make everything right. I like to help people, but instead, I have to sit there, far away, doing nothing.

Neither of us have said we don't want to room together next year. I told her I wouldn't room with her if she didn't stop smoking, because first semester, when we decided to room together, she didn't smoke, and then this semester when she got all stressed and depressed she started smoking like a maniac and...I didn't sign up for that. (She made an effort to cut back, but has not quit) And getting a new roommate isn't that easy, since we are living in a cottage together, rather than a dorm.

At first I was dubious, but I believed in your abilities because of your nifty, colorful banner! ...and I just wanted to stick you with something that is a tough situation because that's life and you asked for it. =P

riven_008 May 4 2009, 02:13:35 UTC

Hi I'm late /punches self to atone

Ah. Well, the first part is good ffff. Sometimes there isn't much you can do to help people, even if you're close to them, unfortunately...:x I will percolate on it more, but idk, babe.

Ohhhh hrmmm uhh. That is harder than a dorm...well, the smoking thing has been made clear; what are you going to do if she doesn't stop? Has the lease (?) been put down, etc etc?

I LOVE MY COLORFUL BANNER 8D Hahaha well even though this is completely late and I mostly just babbled at you, I hope something helped. If everything else fails, I HAVE KITTEN PICTURES.