Food for thought

Jan 29, 2008 09:54

I was talking with a friend the other day, and due to the course of the conversation, I was prompted to ask "How much of who you are, are you willing to change to get what you want?" and the more I thought about it, the more I liked the question ( Read more... )

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stemware January 29 2008, 15:48:44 UTC
See this brings up more questions than it answers. Is real change in a person actually possible? In my opinion, people rarely if ever fundamentally change, especially in the short term. We may evolve over time and we may change our views over time, but personalities, wants, desires, and motivations tend to remain the same unless there is a major "cold turkey" break of some sort of substance in our life.

People sometimes say that you can do or achieve anything you want if you set your mind to it or "change" enough to make it possible, but desire and new skills to change does not always overcome ability. You can only hone a square peg so far.

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theninthdoctor January 29 2008, 21:22:23 UTC
I think some change and evolution is expected of all of us at different times, BUT if you have to change too much for an outside force (be it a person or a job or whatever) I think you'd ultimately be kind of miserable. I guess the key is to find a good balance.

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mearth January 29 2008, 21:47:16 UTC
I think you hit the square peg on the head :) I think a lot of changes in people come from making decisions that align more with what they want over time, than with the ideas they've gotten from their families of origin about what they should do or want. So they are the same people, but they they act differently and become happier.

Even if we don't change what we are doing, things we have been doing for a long time can become more enjoyable when we approach it as something we want to do as opposed to something we have to do.

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reply to road_to_hell eternalrevenge January 29 2008, 22:58:11 UTC
There is one more option....jam it in so it is stuck but not broken ;-). The peg doesn't always have to break, nor does the hole have to shatter ( ... )

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