I'm glad that *someone* finally asked Robert this. I was getting bummed that everytime *I* told someone, the first response was "Really?" cuz he never seemed to get that and I was starting to feel like I was bad at telling people or something.
To elaborate, I am 9 wks. pregnant. He is the other biological parent and also plans to co-parent with me.
Well alrighty. I really wish you the best of luck if you are dead set on having the baby and I want you to know that I'm willing to help you in whatever way I can.
But reading Robert's post after knowing he was serious is a little scary. Seeing "having a baby" next to "no job, uh help?" scares me some. I hope that you guys have some base to fall back on if you need it - parents or something.
I'd like to see you when I get back after Sunday - whenever you're free.
Alyse, i love you, and I'm glad of your offer of support and I know you meant no offense...but that was kinda of offensive.
It's that despite that our scene is allegedly pro-choice and feminist, in actuality it has a lot of the values around sexuality and reproduction that mainstream society has: poor people and young people shouldn't be having kids. And we're both, and while I wish that our community was more progressive, it isn't.
And it's not particularly helpful for people to tell us that this is a bad idea, or we'll fuck up, or anything like that. I mean, we're worried enough as it is, and we've thought of every concern that anyone has raised.
I really do appreciate your offer of help - I'm sure we'll need a lot of help, and hopefully this community will act like a community. Your support is totally welcomed and thanked and everything...but the next time one of your friends announces that they are having (and keeping) a kid, I hope you'll say "congratulations" or "I'm happy for you."
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...you pass DAMN well, son, i thought you was a boy.
congratulations??
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Please elaborate.
PLEASE.
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To elaborate, I am 9 wks. pregnant. He is the other biological parent and also plans to co-parent with me.
--KtC
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But reading Robert's post after knowing he was serious is a little scary. Seeing "having a baby" next to "no job, uh help?" scares me some. I hope that you guys have some base to fall back on if you need it - parents or something.
I'd like to see you when I get back after Sunday - whenever you're free.
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It's that despite that our scene is allegedly pro-choice and feminist, in actuality it has a lot of the values around sexuality and reproduction that mainstream society has: poor people and young people shouldn't be having kids. And we're both, and while I wish that our community was more progressive, it isn't.
And it's not particularly helpful for people to tell us that this is a bad idea, or we'll fuck up, or anything like that. I mean, we're worried enough as it is, and we've thought of every concern that anyone has raised.
I really do appreciate your offer of help - I'm sure we'll need a lot of help, and hopefully this community will act like a community. Your support is totally welcomed and thanked and everything...but the next time one of your friends announces that they are having (and keeping) a kid, I hope you'll say "congratulations" or "I'm happy for you."
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