Hey, if this is too personal or uncalled-for, just tell me to shove off, but I want to ask a question:
Are you okay? The reason I ask is because recently, all your posts have had a common theme, which more or less seems to be unhappiness. You don't seem to be in a very good place right now, and I'm just a little concerned. Obviously, I don't know you from Eve, and I bet you London to a brick that I could walk right past you on the street and not even recognize you despite having seen some photos of you. So I don't have a place of authority from which to question your mental health. It's just, you know, you just had a baby, and mood imbalances are common during this time and can get serious, so I'm just wondering whether it's life circumstances (like the job you hate), or something else that's bringing you down.
Is it okay for me to ask that? I don't mean any harm or insult by it, I just want to make sure everything is okay with you.
Re: Questionrockchic79January 12 2007, 15:05:29 UTC
i don't mind you asking that. its a combination of both, but mostly i am having some postpartum trouble. i've been to the dr and am taking some meds now- for a while it got better, and right now its bad again (for the last week or two) so i guess i'm going to have to think about a higher dose b/c i don't want my baby to see me feeling so down. here's why i never thought i'd have this problem- because what they warn you about is feeling like offing yourself of your baby, and i don't feel that way at all- it doesn't feel like it has anything to do with the baby, in fact most of my daily joy is Haven-derived. but exhaustion certainly contributes, and my husband and i still struggle with the adjustments, and so on. anyway, i have been to see someone, and i'm working on feeling better. i do need a new jobbie, and some more things to feel good about, but nothing is THAT bad. i appreciate your asking, because alot of my friends are too scared to ask and they will comment all day about a post of keira knightley looking thin but shy away from
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Re: QuestionkittensruleJanuary 12 2007, 15:47:15 UTC
I was way bummed for quite sometime after Sage. There were a few times...in the middle of the night when i was extremely tired that I didn't like her...but then in the morning i would dress her up and i'd be all smiles.
i think my sadness was from where I was...I didn't have a good job..Sage's dad and myself didn't see eye to eye...on nearly anything...i didn't feel loved. We lived in the suburbs. for me..ewwwwwww.
I was so sad...but it faded. I think my friend Jen at the time had so much to do wih me feeling better. She is such a good friend. Still is. man..I need to call that betch.
Re: Questionrockchic79January 12 2007, 15:52:48 UTC
thanks!! i really haven't ever been upset about the baby, not once. but i think my husband really misses the way things used to be, and that puts alot of pressure on me, to feel like me and the baby are "a situation" to him. thats alot of the trouble. the gym also helps, b/c being fat makes me feel really bad about myself. its just easy to feel defeated when you're so tired!!!
thanks for the good wishes :) i'll make it just fine, but its nice to hear from people who know where this is coming from.
I obviously can't speak from experience and fully understand what you're going through, but I can imagine how hard it is for you to spend time at a job you don't like, exhausted, and be away from your baby girl. It's hard enough to not like your job without all of the other major life changes you've experienced (and are still experiencing.) It sounds like you're doing the right things by following up with your doctor, and speaking openly about it with friends when you need to. You've been pushing yourself to exercise too, which is good. I'm pretty amazed at how you've handled everything, so I know you'll pull through this even stronger, (and happier!)
i agree that it's good to see your doctor (and a therapist?) about this so you can get a handle on your feelings before they get out of control. Have you and Kevin considered couple's therapy to help you guys work through the recent transition from care-free dating couple to married parents who own a home?
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Are you okay? The reason I ask is because recently, all your posts have had a common theme, which more or less seems to be unhappiness. You don't seem to be in a very good place right now, and I'm just a little concerned. Obviously, I don't know you from Eve, and I bet you London to a brick that I could walk right past you on the street and not even recognize you despite having seen some photos of you. So I don't have a place of authority from which to question your mental health. It's just, you know, you just had a baby, and mood imbalances are common during this time and can get serious, so I'm just wondering whether it's life circumstances (like the job you hate), or something else that's bringing you down.
Is it okay for me to ask that? I don't mean any harm or insult by it, I just want to make sure everything is okay with you.
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i think my sadness was from where I was...I didn't have a good job..Sage's dad and myself didn't see eye to eye...on nearly anything...i didn't feel loved. We lived in the suburbs. for me..ewwwwwww.
I was so sad...but it faded. I think my friend Jen at the time had so much to do wih me feeling better. She is such a good friend. Still is. man..I need to call that betch.
I hope you feel better!!!!!!!!!!!
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thanks for the good wishes :) i'll make it just fine, but its nice to hear from people who know where this is coming from.
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i agree that it's good to see your doctor (and a therapist?) about this so you can get a handle on your feelings before they get out of control. Have you and Kevin considered couple's therapy to help you guys work through the recent transition from care-free dating couple to married parents who own a home?
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