vent on.

[rockykitten]

so, i have a new sympathy for Purple and any other former boyfriend/lovers that's supported my ass while i sat at home and watched tv all day. granted at the time, we didn't have a kid on the way. i'm starting to get really frustrated with James. neither one of us have a job right now, and the kid is due in 7 weeks... i've been the one jumping

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[ourstreets]

oh psh. i'd backhand his lazy ass. aaaahem, i mean, talk to him. if he isn't even trying to get his shit together for you and the little, he doesn't deserve the courtesy of you tip-toeing around his feelings. seriously, this is a two person game and it sounds like someone needs to grow a pair and drink a big cup of getthefuckoveryourself.

good luck amelia. i've been thinking about you a lot. it's nice to see you back in ljland. facebook scares me.

[rockykitten]

i was wishing facebook had a proper journal. but then again, james doesn't have an lj... *grin*

[sariel_t]

*hug* If I can help from afar, let me know.

[rockykitten]

will do, sweetie. thanks. i think even just venting a little will help immensely.

[autowash]

I think you might need to scare him. I would. You don't deserve this shit. He's not the one carrying the baby and working to keep it together, he should be working harder than you. I miss you friend, and hope to meet the little one soon in the future. If any changes are to be made, they should be made right now before you have your child. You and your baby deserve someone who will be a protector, provider and a partner. Good luck lovely.

[rockykitten]

really, i don't necessarily need him to be the typical "provider male" role. but if i'm the one that's bringing in money its really frustrating that i'm also the one doing the dishes and the laundry and keeping house...

[autowash]

Of course! By "provider" I don't necessarily mean he has to bring home money and be that typical role, I mean that what ever role isn't being filled by you. If you're making the money he should be providing for you a home environment that isn't a terrible mess etc.

[jalajscion]

Ahh love.... I'm sorry. It seems as though every time you have something good in your hands the goodness wants to take a leap and say "Its alright she won't care" attitude.

First it took my 7 mos to find another job. I mean it took me forever. I didn't quit or give up. If I was in front of a TV I think it would have taken longer.

I would suggest disconnect everything to make him get out the house. We didn't have internet connection which made me get out the house to go to a cafe to email my resume. You doing all the work while you should be nesting and getting the house ready for your new child is your priority. His priority should be providing and participating by getting a damn job. If I was in his position I would be working at least two jobs. Especially in this economy.

Smack him. Your house and your child may depend on it honey. SMACK HIM OR LEAVE HIM. If you need to talk let me know you still have my number.

Love you much.

[rockykitten]

i couldn't disconnect anything. none of it is in my name, and we actually don't even pay part of the bill. the roommates pay for it, technically its theirs. and we live in a small town, there really are only so many places to use the computer. still some, but no internet cafe on every corner.

he's been talking about going back to school. i'd be fine with that, too, if only he'd actually talk to me.

[rockykitten]

by the way, he's on facebook. so don't say shit about him on there! if i rant on here, its cause i *don't* want him to see it! your comment on my post about his getting a job could've potentially been awkward...

[seraphonica]

Speaking as someone who's been through the malaise of penniless job searching, I can only say that the babying of me was the worst thing for me. Dwelling on my joblessness only made it feel more futile. People treating me as if I had a job gave me the bottle of Fukitol I needed to down to get out there.

That said, I am clearly NOT him. The experience is likely non-transferable.