You know.. I've truly found the thing that works best is plain taking away rights/privileges... or better yet, toys. I don't know why she'd be acting that way because your children are CLEARLY loved. But that aside, she knows how to behave, she isn't dumb.. I'd take away all things *entertainment* (except books) if it came down to it.. and make her earn them back with good behavior/proper work. I've only had to do this once with my kids...
Maybe instead of people just flat out buying her stuff.. maybe they can have her help with something? Like cleaning, or errands? So she is *earning* things in a way. Or start a little allowance that only gets earned at the end of the week if all expected behavior/chores/good school work is complete?
That sad thing is.. children KNOW where and when they can *get away* with things... .. that makes our job just that much harder.
oh. i love taking away stuff. (not really, but i have no problem doing it) but yeah, its the whole knowing what others will accept, and me having no control over it, other than saying "you really shouldnt act/do/expect such and such from so and so because its not right" or whatever.
and i dont have the type of relationship with either (her dad or memaw) to where theyll listen, or even give a shit, to my advice.
How much time does she spend around groups of children her own age? We learn how to act around peers, how to interact with each other and others. If her peers are you, the baby, and your ex's family, that is how she will interact with people.
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You know.. I've truly found the thing that works best is plain taking away rights/privileges... or better yet, toys.
I don't know why she'd be acting that way because your children are CLEARLY loved. But that aside, she knows how to behave, she isn't dumb.. I'd take away all things *entertainment* (except books) if it came down to it.. and make her earn them back with good behavior/proper work. I've only had to do this once with my kids...
Maybe instead of people just flat out buying her stuff.. maybe they can have her help with something? Like cleaning, or errands? So she is *earning* things in a way. Or start a little allowance that only gets earned at the end of the week if all expected behavior/chores/good school work is complete?
That sad thing is.. children KNOW where and when they can *get away* with things... .. that makes our job just that much harder.
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and i dont have the type of relationship with either (her dad or memaw) to where theyll listen, or even give a shit, to my advice.
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