I know what you mean about the friend stuff. There've been some people in Texas who really pulled through for me. I keep wishing I could find a good solid base of genuine friends (plural!) here.
It really is weird that you're not losing any weight period. Maybe you need to sit down and really remember what you used to do and what you do now. There has to be something somewhere. Unless you do have some problem making you not lose. :/
I used to drink sodas and eat the same stuff I did now so its my metabolism thats slowed. I've been tested for diabetes once or twice, but they never mention about testing, unless I bug them. Yeah I really cant wait to move to Atlanta-there are so many more people I know there Michele
I completely understand about the friends thing. I try to look at it more as a circle though - I might be there or do something for one friend and although they might not return the favour they might do something or be there for someone else. That person in turn.... and so on. It all comes back around eventually and not always from the person you expect.
I wish you luck with the weight loss. Get your doc to check out things like your thyroid. That can prevent you losing weight.
Hey thats true- I had my thyroid checked a few years ago (but as I said to my friend Gabby above) they never even mention the possibility that it could be medical. He looked at my chart and saw I had been 200+ for 3-4 years. I told them it all started when my Dr put me on Elavil in 2002 and I gained 10-15 lbs in a few months and was eating constantly. I looked it up on the internet and it says Elavils been a problem for weight gain. You are right about it being a circle- I just feel so lonely and isolated here- if there are a few times I need a favor-its hard to ask (and I live alone so occasionally I need one :P) Thank you for replying and I havent gotten my 300 DVD yet-have you? Michele
I don't have it yet. i will most likely buy the 2 disc Aussie version - it comes with a mice tin box but I also have to get the UK version. I will most likely end up with several different ones - I am a sucker for packaging! I hear there is one edition coming out in a gift pack with a Spartan replica helmet. I might have to get that one too! Sad I know!
A lot of meds can cause weight problems. I would certainly take it up with your doctor. Is there something he could change you onto that causes lesss side effects than the Elavil. Definitely get them to check if there is a medical reason for it or you will be trying to lose weight for nothing. that can be very disheartening!
I was taken off the elavil, as soon as I told him I was gaining weight, and put back on the regular meds. But no matter what I do now (years later)-no weight comes off. I worked out for 2 months this winter and gained 15 lbs (and I wasnt eating more). At least if they suggested the possibility it was something medical -I would feel better. Michele
Has your doctor told you any ways to help lose that weight? :/ I hope you don't have to go on medication, I didn't realize you had any issues like that. Have you considered counting calories? I know that really helped me, maybe that would do something? Walking two miles every single day should definitely do something for you unless you just aren't burning enough calories. Keep in mind stuff like soft drinks have CRAZY amounts of calories, it's really insane. It's a huge pain in the ass to count them but at least if that doesn't work then you'll really know something is up that you might want to get checked out.
Just the eating every 2-3 hours and to keep up the walking, in addition to lifting light weights, is all he suggested. Also watching portion sizes of my cereal etc. They hardly ever ask me or offer to do a diabetes check or thryoid and theres a history of both in my family. I had a diabetes check 2 years ago I think. He didnt say anything about the soda since I drink 1-2 cans a day-he just told me to not drink any more than that.(its actually a question on their medical chart now!)
Well, soda is horrible, so I'm not surprised. I do love it so but I drink it very occasionally. I mean, if I have more than a couple bottles a week I feel badly now. :/ Plus, it's just not as refreshing as pure water though I didn't previously believe that.
Yeah, the portion size thing got me thinking, rarely do people actually read the appropriate serving size on the box and they eat like twice as much as they should.
I'd try the calorie thing and see how that works out. That way, at least you'll know and you can mark something else off your list as a possibility.
Oh yeah, I meant to say that in some of the worst times of my life, most of my friends couldn't handle being around me. Either it was because they were easily susceptible to depression themselves and I suppose afraid they would get dragged down with me, or they just couldn't handle it. *shrug
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I dunno Ive had many friends stand by me in my darkest hours, as I have for them. Of course it was depressing for them-as it was for me-but that is when you find out who your real friends are, I think. And if your feeling bad, when people pull away because it may pour over onto them and effect their mood-it sounds kind of selfish to me, sorry to say. I've been depressed for days on end when something bad happens to my friends and of course my family. I think that's very normal. I decided last night I'm gonna move to Atlanta as soon as I can cause living alone is hard without a network around. :)
Well, when you're depressive, sometimes if you don't pull away, you consider suicide, so yeah, it's selfish but I think absolutely necessary for some people. I don't begrudge them that. I have depression but thank gods it's not that serious. However, I've known people who had extremely serious depression issues and I don't consider them not my friends just because they have a chemical imbalance. In my opinion, that's not fair to them
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No I was not saying if people have chemical imbalances- I wasn't going to be friends with them at all. I was saying I think its selfish of the other person without the problem to say-well listening to them drags me down -so I won't- to avoid making myself feel bad. We've all been in the same place one time or another and no one is an island. And again -financial help is your limit-but its not for me -only in the most desperate circumstances. I've had to buy every single thing for myself so when I lost my job for months at an end- I was desperate and afraid to lose my car. I went for weeks with barely any food but I was lucky a few girls from the fan club loaned me something to get me by. My Dr. mentioned that huge period of barely eating is probably what messed my metabolism up. And I have paid back everyone in the past and am working on paying back the people whos loaned me money recently. Its different for you-you have Alex to help with the bills and for emotional security-so its not the same for everyone.
Get your thyroid checked - esp if it runs in the family. There is a check list of symptoms - that by themselves are not a concern, but if you put them together - equals unactive thyroid. A weight gain for no reason is one of them - keep track of what you eat and write it down so you can show your doctors that your not eating like a pig. Thinning hair, puffy face, tiredness, fatigue, etc. I'll try and find the website..... Doctors needs to do more than tell you to lose weight - they need to tell you how. And if you're already doing what they want - then 9 times out of ten there is an underlying reason for the weight - and they don't feel like getting to the bottom of what it is. Starving yourself is NOT the answer.
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It really is weird that you're not losing any weight period. Maybe you need to sit down and really remember what you used to do and what you do now. There has to be something somewhere. Unless you do have some problem making you not lose. :/
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I've been tested for diabetes once or twice, but they never mention about testing, unless I bug them.
Yeah I really cant wait to move to Atlanta-there are so many more people I know there
Michele
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I wish you luck with the weight loss. Get your doc to check out things like your thyroid. That can prevent you losing weight.
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I told them it all started when my Dr put me on Elavil in 2002 and I gained 10-15 lbs in a few months and was eating constantly.
I looked it up on the internet and it says Elavils been a problem for weight gain.
You are right about it being a circle- I just feel so lonely and isolated here- if there are a few times I need a favor-its hard to ask (and I live alone so occasionally I need one :P)
Thank you for replying and I havent gotten my 300 DVD yet-have you?
Michele
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A lot of meds can cause weight problems. I would certainly take it up with your doctor. Is there something he could change you onto that causes lesss side effects than the Elavil. Definitely get them to check if there is a medical reason for it or you will be trying to lose weight for nothing. that can be very disheartening!
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But no matter what I do now (years later)-no weight comes off.
I worked out for 2 months this winter and gained 15 lbs (and I wasnt eating more).
At least if they suggested the possibility it was something medical -I would feel better.
Michele
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Also watching portion sizes of my cereal etc.
They hardly ever ask me or offer to do a diabetes check or thryoid and theres a history of both in my family. I had a diabetes check 2 years ago I think.
He didnt say anything about the soda since I drink 1-2 cans a day-he just told me to not drink any more than that.(its actually a question on their medical chart now!)
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Yeah, the portion size thing got me thinking, rarely do people actually read the appropriate serving size on the box and they eat like twice as much as they should.
I'd try the calorie thing and see how that works out. That way, at least you'll know and you can mark something else off your list as a possibility.
How was the party? :)
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Ive had many friends stand by me in my darkest hours, as I have for them.
Of course it was depressing for them-as it was for me-but that is when you find out who your real friends are, I think.
And if your feeling bad, when people pull away because it may pour over onto them and effect their mood-it sounds kind of selfish to me, sorry to say.
I've been depressed for days on end when something bad happens to my friends and of course my family.
I think that's very normal.
I decided last night I'm gonna move to Atlanta as soon as I can cause living alone is hard without a network around. :)
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I was saying I think its selfish of the other person without the problem to say-well listening to them drags me down -so I won't- to avoid making myself feel bad. We've all been in the same place one time or another and no one is an island.
And again -financial help is your limit-but its not for me -only in the most desperate circumstances.
I've had to buy every single thing for myself so when I lost my job for months at an end- I was desperate and afraid to lose my car.
I went for weeks with barely any food but I was lucky a few girls from the fan club loaned me something to get me by. My Dr. mentioned that huge period of barely eating is probably what messed my metabolism up.
And I have paid back everyone in the past and am working on paying back the people whos loaned me money recently.
Its different for you-you have Alex to help with the bills and for emotional security-so its not the same for everyone.
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There is a check list of symptoms - that by themselves are not a concern, but if you put them together - equals unactive thyroid. A weight gain for no reason is one of them - keep track of what you eat and write it down so you can show your doctors that your not eating like a pig. Thinning hair, puffy face, tiredness, fatigue, etc. I'll try and find the website.....
Doctors needs to do more than tell you to lose weight - they need to tell you how. And if you're already doing what they want - then 9 times out of ten there is an underlying reason for the weight - and they don't feel like getting to the bottom of what it is. Starving yourself is NOT the answer.
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I'll start keeping track of what I eat.
I eat such small portions anyways-I wish I could eat more.
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