No art today :(

[rospberry]

Have had an awful week, including (but not least) having to leave art club early 'cause I felt awful. At least I've given them all a topic of conversation...apparently I was much discussed when I departed in haste. So, no new art to show. For those that saw the locked post: my mum is still in hospital cause she can't eat and drink properly but the

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[anonymous]

My sympathies and best wishes for your mother's speedy recovery.

[anonymous]

Argh, sorry, that was me. Sue

[rospberry]

Thought it was you :) Thanks for the thoughts x

[fififolle]

*hugs* Glad to hear there is better news about your mum, I hope she keeps improving. So horrible for you just now, and I hope you feel better soon.

[rospberry]

*hugs back* Infection isn't as gone as I thought. Her temperature keeps going up and down and she is being obstructive with the staff. Sigh. I'll just be in the corner banging my head off the wall.

[fififolle]

Oh no! Thinking about you. So stressful:(

[fififolle]

Oh no! Thinking about you. So stressful:(

[shooting2kill]

It's difficult knowing what to say but I suppose simply I'm saying that I'm so sorry for all your troubles - your worry and anxiety about your mum and all the sad memories attached to your dad. What I've found helpful is the old cliche of taking one day at a time as much as is possible, and always come here to live journal to share your problems if you find it helps. And it sounds like your mum is being well looked after so try not to feel too anxious.

[rospberry]

That's exactly why I blocked comments on the last post. Too hard for appropriate words. Dad and I firmly believed in the day at a time philosophy and I've tried to keep up with it but some days... My mum is difficult at the best of times and at the moment she is making her treatment difficult for the staff. Frustrating and soul destroying. Thanks so much for your supportive words. *hugs*

[fredbassett]

*hugs* Anxiety is the pits. I hope your mum improves, and that you do, too. Let me know if you ever want to talk. I know those horrible feelings all too well.

[rospberry]

Thanks, luv. Mum is being extra difficult today - refusing to take medication so her temperature is rising again and her breathing is laboured. I appreciate patient rights but it was frustrating that when she says no to paracetamol and then is in pain later that they have to accept her 'no'. I didn't. Bullied her into it - but I can't be there all the time. Same with refusing to eat and drink. It's hard to tell if her belligerence is dementia related or just my mum being my mum. Not the easiest woman at the best of times (understatement of the bloody century). Hate that I have become the parent. Wish I could run away from it all. Ach, well, got to keep going, eh. No one else is going to do it.

[fredbassett]

That is frustrating. And, unfortunately, it's bloody difficult to get elderly, confused folks to take meds and eat and drink. So difficult for you. I know so many people in this situation, and my heart goes out to everyone involved. My family have always just gone in that one great big shock type thing. My dad died after an op. My aunt had a massive stroke and went out like a light in bed one night. I lost my mum when I was a very small kid. All horrible, but not so bad as living through this sort of situation. *hugs again*

[rospberry]

Mine have all liked to drag things out over years. Think either option is awful, tho. At least with dad there were a lot of people that loved him, but my mum has pushed away everyone in her life so I'm all she has left. Very very sad. The young her was so vibrant and popular, incredibly intelligent. Still a b*tch, but she got away with it then. They have a speech therapist going in today to see if her eating issues are medical or self induced. I suspect the latter.