Comments | rouge_usagi: A happy mania moment

rouge_usagi

A happy mania moment

Oct 10, 2007 20:18

HHHHmmm, I am having a pull of my conscience ( Read more... )

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rouge_usagi October 10 2007, 22:39:19 UTC

WWWhhhaattt?!?!?
I'm a nice girl!!!
I treat them nicely too,

unikorn October 10 2007, 16:10:07 UTC

Guys have sex with girls they have no emotional attachment for all the time! They don't get called slutty for it! Don't let crappy double standards stop you doing something that you enjoy :P

Maybe the guys themselves really are just boring. If they fail to hold your attention, then they weren't really the right one to be continuing a relationship with. Better to dump them before they get attached, if you're not feeling anything. It sounds mean.. but its really not because I think leading someone on is worse.

rouge_usagi October 10 2007, 22:42:54 UTC

Thats a valid point, I do wonder if my friends fully understand, or if sterotypes are the driving force behind their opinions sometimes.

Usually I have an interlectuall conection with these guys as well as a sexual one before I start "dating" them even, but after awhile they lose their shining sparkliness and I get bored or i get irritated with them for petty things!

halfeatenmoon October 10 2007, 22:02:14 UTC

I think the most important thing is to be honest with these guys and make it clear that you're only interested in sex. Otherwise you're just leading them on, you know? If the guy you're seeing now is okay with the "It's just sex" part, maybe you could discuss whether it's okay to see other people as well.

I don't know, these kinds of situations are all rather tricky, but talking and being open and honest can help a lot.

rouge_usagi October 10 2007, 22:51:32 UTC

I am totally homest when it comes to dating guys, they know it's just for fun, I make it clear and usually I don't start anything with them if I get the sense they would want more. The guy I'm seeing atm, knows it's very casual and open, hes just a strange guy for a 20yr old, he works his but off at work, work comes first which is great. He saves most of his pay every week, for gods knows what, and he has a sweet emotional side as weel. This is why I am finding my self feeling guilty about wanting to see someone else.

Don't get me wrong he's not clingy in the sense he wants this to be serious, but I don't think he'd want to continue if I was to start seeing someone else.
I don't want to end it with him just yet either! I think I'm just being selfish, wanting my cake and to eat it too I guess.

floatyman October 10 2007, 22:50:16 UTC

Well sounds like your having fun, just take care of yourself *hug*

rouge_usagi October 10 2007, 22:53:20 UTC

I always do hunny, I have a couple of very important people I need to be there for!
They can't have thier mum being foolish now can they?

floatyman October 10 2007, 23:13:03 UTC

I am glad to hear that :) Your always having so much fun! XD

sakenichi October 11 2007, 02:45:46 UTC

I bounced from guy to guy for ages until I met Wolfy. If you're feeling disinterested in these guys, then they're not the right one. Sometimes you just need to go through a string of guys to find out what you're NOT looking for so you can learn what to look for.

rouge_usagi October 11 2007, 03:06:55 UTC

That probably true, Also it's not just me in the relationship if it does get serious! so atm I like it being casual, the guy I'm "dating" doesn't get to meet my kids, I don't want to drag them through anything temporary! It's not fair on them!

I actually am ready for serious, A few months ago I wasn't and I can still do the casual thing without any regrets, but I would be ok if serious came along!