To add to your myriad of Wasteland quotes, my absolute favourite:
"This is what you do: you sing. Every part of you. Your locks of hair sing sing, your eyes, your hands, your smile. If I listen closely I can even hear your blood."
We create drama by lying, by suffering, by bingeing and dieting, by living in the midst of perpetual motion, by forever beginning or ending relationships. We create drama by externalizing our pain, by making things hard between ourselves in relationships instead of being honest about how hard it is inside ourselves. When we are not honest about the internal conflict, we stage an external one. We create drama because we are afraid of revealing ourselves. Creating drama protects us from being intimate.
If we lived in family environments in which we felt that things were just about to fall apart, or always in the process of doing so, if we lived with emotional or physical violence, if we lived with abuse or neglect, then what is most familiar and therefore most comfortable to us is discomfort. We are suspicious of things that are easy or fluid or comfortable. Without theater, we feel as if we are missing the essentials of being alive. And in fact, we are. We are missing the drama that defined being alive in our families. We don't know how to be alive without it.
To us, suffering dignifies an experience. When something is hard, we know it is worth doing. If we have to struggle, we have a purpose--and winning the struggle gives us a feeling of accomplishment.
Life is what happens as you live with the wounds. Life is not a matter of getting the wounds out of the way so that you can finally live. Wounds are never permanently erased. We are fragile beings, and some days we break all over again.
. . .Healing is about being broken and whole at the same time.
I kept imagining the end, the despair I would suffer when it came, and it made any happiness I had in the present seem not merely ephemeral, but doomed. Because the happier I allowed myself to be now, the more miserable I would be later.
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"This is what you do: you sing. Every part of you. Your locks of hair sing sing, your eyes, your hands, your smile. If I listen closely I can even hear your blood."
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-Geneen Roth
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To us, suffering dignifies an experience. When something is hard, we know it is worth doing. If we have to struggle, we have a purpose--and winning the struggle gives us a feeling of accomplishment.
-Geneen Roth
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. . .Healing is about being broken and whole at the same time.
-Geneen Roth
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-Prozac Nation, Elizabeth Wurtzel
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