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[rubyz]

i hate my child. i do. i wish i could leave and take the baby and start over. i cant stand to be around him. He treats me like shit, screams at me, ignores everything i say, throws his toys, whines and fucking complains about everything. Scott and my relationship is suffering because we cant agree on a way to handle it. I understand that three is

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[loolica]

oh god. i have no advice whatsoever. i wouldn't be eager to spank, either, but i confess that parenting tool kit basically contains: talking, negotiating, bargaining, wheedling, begging, yelling, screaming, crying, slamming doors, and then, rarely, but still more often than i would like, a swat on the ass.

i always say i'm going to find a parenting class, but i never do. you totally should though, it's good advice. it should come complementary with every newborn.

[loolica]

also, i'm really really sorry you feel so crappy. zab goes through stages of shitiness where all i can think about is stuffing her in a garbage bag and dropping her in the river, but, thank god, they don't last long enough for me to actually go out and buy garbage bags. it seems to be about three weeks on, one week off--like pms by proxy!

(god, maybe it's all me?!? no!!!)

[charris]

It will pass. Both of my kids were EXTREMELY challenging at three and V still often is at barely four and even S dallies with that awful shit now & then at 6.5.
It's hard, especially with a sweet new baby. I was in EXACTLY that place when Viv was new and Silas was newly 3 and OMg it was all I could do not to seriously hurt him many many times.
Love & luck. It's rough, but you will get through. Oh and I honestly found that crying hard helped. It changed the dynamic and garnered some empathy from his addled toddler brain.
C

[playful_d]

I am sorry that it is so tough right now... no advice really. I just have one and well... that has it's moments too but know it would be so much harder w/ 2.

[rubyz]

charis it means a lot to read that you have trouble with your kids too. I know everyone does at times, but in your LJ you are always saying the most wonderful things about your children. Your family seems so happy and well adjusted.
And I often feel bad that I can't say the same right now.

[staleyg]

after jiro was born i remember thinking satchel was GIGANTIC and i didn't want him anywhere near my perfect tiny baby and it made me feel like shit.

i tried to spend alone time with him whenever possible and warren really picked up my slack. it got better with time.

also i think at some point the older one does forget what it was like before the baby came, just like the parents do.