My doctor told me to attempt to spend 20 minutes of child-directed play with Treya during the first year of being a new older sibling. Actually its meant for all parents and all kids, but I "heard" to attempt this as much as possible during the first year and it made a difference, even though I promptly went and forgot again for two years.
I went through exactly what you are feeling. Sometimes i still do feel that way. Its HARD bringing a new baby into the mix. Its like going through a nasty breakup with your firstborn, even though later you get back together again. And you still love him so much and feel so guilty and sad and miss him but he's such a colossal dickhead to you because he's so hurt and he loves you and he's confused and so you get mad and want to throttle him!
Its already gotten a lot better around here. D still gets mad and acts out, but lots of one on one time helps a LOT even though sometimes I don't even want to hang out with him, at least initially. (Easier said than done, and meanwhile you're trying to enjoy falling in love with the new baby.) Everyone tells me it gets better so I'm counting on that.
And Scott has good insight, thats what it is around here. Bad attention is better than none at all.
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Its already gotten a lot better around here. D still gets mad and acts out, but lots of one on one time helps a LOT even though sometimes I don't even want to hang out with him, at least initially. (Easier said than done, and meanwhile you're trying to enjoy falling in love with the new baby.) Everyone tells me it gets better so I'm counting on that.
And Scott has good insight, thats what it is around here. Bad attention is better than none at all.
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