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[rucaheina]

My mother is in the hospital once again and I just have no idea how to deal with this anymore. We get bad news every fucking day and it;s getting harder to stay positive

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[wacey]

As we've talked about, I went through a very similar situation with my mother back when I was in high school. I dont know if there is anything I could say to help you cope with it, it's something that seems so impossible to do. I was pretty much in the same boat you are, I took it hard. You already know you have to stay positive, and try and help your family as well. For your mother, for your family, for you, and your sanity. It's so hard to stay positive when it seems like every day all you hear are horrible things. It is also sad to say but in most cases its situations like this that truely bring a family together. That is definately important, you need to surround yourself with people you love and people that love you, people you can talk to and who will listen and let you cry on their shoulder. You can't keep your feelings inside, that was my mistake, and I went crazy. When you don't want to talk, or have nothing to do, and find yourself thinking negative thoughts, find things to keep you busy, and your mind elsewhere

[joeymichaels]

Honestly? When I've been in this situation, I internalized all of it just to put on a positive front, just like you. I felt it was important to be positive around my ill relative. I did have some shoulders to cry on, though, when I wasn't around them - and that really helped.

Good luck, Ruca. My thoughts are with you and your mom.

[aussiek]

i don't know you (saw the post via a friends page as it's public) and i'm not sure what illness your mother has but i've been through a similar experience

[sharya]

Hi Ruca,

It's been a while, so I thought I'd stop in and see how you're doing. I didn't realize your mom was in such a bad way and I'm sorry to hear it.

My dad's terminal but I'm not sure I'm doing anything right as far as coping. I'm mostly focusing on my new family and trying to maximize my time with my baby and my dad. It leaves me feeling pretty raw. Sometimes I've thought of trying to make a photo collage of him, or just write something about him, but I haven't done it yet and I wonder if it's a bad idea because it'll be focusing on it too much. I don't have the answer. Let me know if you find it.