In parenting, one of the things we do differently is, I try to keep my daughter out of "grown folks business" as my mother did with me.
Monique, for some reason, tells her children why we were arguing, or "discussing". At one point, we were up talking one night, not an argument, but a heated debate. She then got her children up out of bed to apologize to them for having me there, when she knew she was upset with me. *shrug* who knows what that was all about...
Ok, maybe a little "filler" because I haven't updated this thing for a while.
That is the understatement of the year...as for your problem you need to talk that out with her, words are wonderful tell her how you feel cause no matter what we say we are not her, only you can resolve this, you might be suprised or disappointed about the reaction, so sit her down and tell her your concerns.
We sat down, probably for 3 hours yesterday talking. Got a lot off of our minds, and everything in the open.... It was a very much needed thing to do...
No running allowed. No silent festering.sanctumsantorumMay 8 2006, 19:21:41 UTC
I say talk to her. ASAP. And when you do,
Listen to each other. Take turns talking and let the other know when you've finished. Signals are important. This way each of you know you're being heard and each of you know when it's your turn.
Always speak in statements of truth, and no blanket statements allowed. Be specific when the topic isn't positive and place no blame. Have a conversation.
Show your appreciation to each other. Vocalize it. Touch. Smile.
Then,
Negotiate parenting guidelines, set firm boundaries with each other, and also with and among the kids.
Have a family talk giving everyone equal voice. Agree on an action plan. Implement it. Renegotiate as needed.
Re: No running allowed. No silent festering.ruggedoneMay 8 2006, 19:54:31 UTC
Thanks Sweets :)
I might be a bit hard to live with these days.. So we broke it off.. Things were said that cant be taken back, yanno? We enjoyed each other while it lasted, but I know when to bow out. I'm happy I didn't meet her online though...LOL
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do you all parent similarly or.....?
as always, nice to see ya.
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That's why we get along.
In parenting,
one of the things we do differently
is, I try to keep my daughter out of
"grown folks business" as my mother did with me.
Monique, for some reason, tells her children
why we were arguing, or "discussing". At one point,
we were up talking one night, not an argument, but a heated debate. She then got her children up out of bed to apologize to them for having me there, when she knew she was upset with me. *shrug* who knows what that was all about...
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That is the understatement of the year...as for your problem you need to talk that out with her, words are wonderful tell her how you feel cause no matter what we say we are not her, only you can resolve this, you might be suprised or disappointed about the reaction, so sit her down and tell her your concerns.
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Got a lot off of our minds, and everything in the open....
It was a very much needed thing to do...
P.S. I'm single again.
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I say talk to her. ASAP. And when you do,
Listen to each other. Take turns talking and let the other know when you've finished. Signals are important. This way each of you know you're being heard and each of you know when it's your turn.
Always speak in statements of truth, and no blanket statements allowed. Be specific when the topic isn't positive and place no blame. Have a conversation.
Show your appreciation to each other. Vocalize it. Touch. Smile.
Then,
Negotiate parenting guidelines, set firm boundaries with each other, and also with and among the kids.
Have a family talk giving everyone equal voice. Agree on an action plan. Implement it. Renegotiate as needed.
We love you Pooks.
Rob & Colleen
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I might be a bit hard to live with these days..
So we broke it off..
Things were said that cant be taken back, yanno?
We enjoyed each other while it lasted, but I know when to bow out.
I'm happy I didn't meet her online though...LOL
Love you
the mister and the boy..
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DONUTS.
(I know you know what I'm talking about)
*winkety wink*
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At least we didn't say "we can still be friends"
to each other...
P.S. Congrats to you and the wife :)
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