yikes

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Mark just told me some horrible news. some friends (friends of a friend, really) of ours had a baby about two months after us, and the baby died of SIDS a couple of weeks ago. It was only her third day back a work, and she got a call at work. The babysitter walked in and found the baby blue in the crib, and he was officially pronounced dead at

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[astormorray]

oh no. God, I worry about baby E all the time. I check on her, already, all the time. Everytime she's asleep I study her to be sure she's breathing. for all this, I can't imagine having to give her up. She's the love of my life. It's hard to think of anything worse than losing your baby.

[astormorray]

i totally agree - there just cant be anything worse.

i checked on Mary a LOT last night and i hardly could sleep until i brought her to bed with me - then i was much more at ease.

I just feel like i wish there was some way to express my sympathy to them (a card, a meal, etc.) but i just feel like anything i do will just draw attention to the fact that i still have my baby and this will just piss them off.... suggestions?

[astormorray]

But not doing anything will draw attention... yeah, I don't know. I think you should do something, their loss is so great, you have to acknowledge it. But I don't know what would be kindest.