Comments | runningchic8583: What do you think?

runningchic8583

What do you think?

Apr 15, 2004 22:55

Upon entering college, I have realized how much more open minded I have become. Things that may have bothered me in high school no longer phase me, and things I may have been upset about previously are not even issues. I feel I have grown both personally and professionally. There is still one issue though, that college has not touched, and that ( Read more... )

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m_tree21 April 15 2004, 21:18:38 UTC

"I still hold those feelings, yet I respect many of my friends' choices not to wait, for it is an individual decision that does not have to gain approval from anyone...except maybe God ( ... )

And to that I say... runningchic8583 April 15 2004, 21:30:58 UTC

You may only live your life once, but that is also your only chance to live it right. You also only have one shot at eternity, and I for one would rather be safe and not toy with spending the rest of eternity in Hell. I realize this is a rather strong statement and typical coming from a religious standpoint...but in all honesty...why take that chance and risk it for something that really "isn't that big of a deal." If it isn't "that big of a deal," why can't one wait? In all honesty, if I found out who my future husband was to be today, and saw him making out with someone else, or having sex with someone else...i would be pissed. Maybe I'm crazy...but that's how I feel.

anonymous April 18 2004, 13:31:38 UTC

I think you're right. First of all, God is pretty clear that it's wrong to have sex outside of marriage, and past that, why risk it? I sometimes have a hard time thinking about the other women my boyfriend has dated. How much harder would that be if I knew he had slept with them? Then I would know there was nothing we could ever share that they didn't. I don't think you're being old-fashioned here- I think you're saving yourself a lot of heartache in the future. If you sleep with other people besides your husband, chances are you're going to feel guilty for it at some point and regret that he wasn't your first and only. Don't risk that. I know people who are married who never had sex before they were married, including with their fiance, and don't regret it at all. They are glad they waited and never felt old-fashioned for it at all. Hang in there and stick to your convictions.

Fellow V-Club Member anonymous April 18 2004, 17:28:42 UTC

I don't think you are old-fashioned, and I commend you for stating your views and sticking by them. It is one thing to talk about it, and it is another thing to walk that path. From a fellow V-Club member, it may not be the easiest thing to do, but I believe it will be one of the most rewarding. I, too, have been taught all my life that sex is a sacred act meant only for married couples. God is a part of every relationship, and when the foundation of your relationship is built on a common belief like this, it just makes your relationship that much stronger. I wear a promise ring that my parents gave me when I was confirmed that symbolizes my promise to stay true to God and to not have sex before I am married. One of my friends put it best when she said "When my husband takes off that ring to put on my wedding ring, he will know I loved him before I met him." What a great wedding gift.

m_tree21 April 18 2004, 20:10:56 UTC

The most important thing is to be true to yourself, and you're beliefs whatever they may be. If you don't want to have sex 'til you're married, more power to you.

People that do, I don't think they should be judged. That's their choice, they made it, no one else.

Doesn't have to be so controversial.

m_tree21 April 19 2004, 16:33:34 UTC

Oh I have a question.. and please don't bite my head off :)

Does the bible specifically say it's wrong to have sex before marriage, or has it always been looked down upon through society?

I honestly don't know!

m_tree21 April 19 2004, 17:23:43 UTC

Good question. If you don't know something, it's always good to ask. :-) The Bible says "Do not committ adultery" (i.e. sex our of marriage) in Exodus 20:14. It is one of the tem commandments. It also says several times that men and women should enter marriage as virgins (Song of Songs) and that sexual immorality should be avoided. (Several New Testament references)

m_tree21 April 19 2004, 21:18:35 UTC

Funny, I always thought adultery was always cheating on your spouse.

Oh well..

m_tree21 April 28 2004, 20:57:29 UTC

I always thought that too. and American Heritage defines adultery as: voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a partner other than the lawful spouse. So unless you were having sex with a married person before you your self was married it wouldn't be adultery, but it all ultimately comes down to everyone's personal preferences about issues. And we all just need to accept everyone's decisions they make about their own life and live our own how we want to live it. I am not a big fan of people judging others just because we all don't think and act the same way.