I should definitely be asleep right now. I'm beat, and I'm putting together the lesson plans for the week, but I wanted to post something that I'd been thinking about
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No woman is unattainable. It is never a matter of looks. Women are rarely so shallow as men when it comes to the appearance of a potential mate. How many times have you sen an attractive woman with a man who seems at best plain? You ask youself what does he have.
Sorry to be so harsh, but I think the way you make them unattainable is likely the matter of the fact that you are making yourself a poor choice by your lifestyle, i.e., a 26 year old single man living with his mother.
One thing women of substance do want is that their man evidence that he is a grownup adult "man," not a boy(they fear we all have the peter pan complex and are just looking for a substitute mother). To be a grown up adult man, you have to appear to be on your own and independent and confident and to have given up childlike things.
Don't give up.But do move on. Don't wait. Grow. Life goes on. It does not wait.
I don't think it's any outer characteristic of you that makes them unattainable, but more a lack of confidence. It's not the girl who says, "Hey, sorry, I'm out of your league, try someone a little more attainable," it's you who puts them on the unattainable pedestal. No?
Okay, I think I need to clarify what I meant. It seems to me that you look for girls who are unattainable, not out of your league because they are just so awesome, but because making a relationship work out with them would be a long shot. I can point to a few examples, but as I don't know who reads this blog, I won't be specific. Let's just say that distance is a factor. Actually, I could mention a few girls who you were really into that lived far away or were about to be changing location. Maybe it is because you miss them so much. Distance makes the heart grow fonder? Just a thought.
My feeling is that just because things do not work out into a long-term relationship with a particular girl does not mean that she is "unattainable
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I actually don't know who you are. I thought I did, but I was wrong, it would seem.
Putting myself out there rarely makes a difference. I think people actually tend to appreciate more when I put a little bit of myself out there, and conceal the rest with trickery and cleverness.
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Sorry to be so harsh, but I think the way you make them unattainable is likely the matter of the fact that you are making yourself a poor choice by your lifestyle, i.e., a 26 year old single man living with his mother.
One thing women of substance do want is that their man evidence that he is a grownup adult "man," not a boy(they fear we all have the peter pan complex and are just looking for a substitute mother). To be a grown up adult man, you have to appear to be on your own and independent and confident and to have given up childlike things.
Don't give up.But do move on. Don't wait. Grow. Life goes on. It does not wait.
Good Luck and may the force be with you
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Putting myself out there rarely makes a difference. I think people actually tend to appreciate more when I put a little bit of myself out there, and conceal the rest with trickery and cleverness.
Just a thought.
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