Breaking ice.

[ryan_gosling]

At about nine o'clock on Wednesday I was in the backseat of a car in Los Angeles with a couple friends. One driving, one in the passenger's side on his cell, and another at my right doing not much of anything. I'm chewing on my quickie fast-foodish, semi-Thanksgivingesque meal and telling the guy beside me about this CD I got earlier in the week,

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[ryan_gosling]

And that's the truth, I think it's a hard thing to swallow but it's something you really have to come to terms with or you're going to run into so many problems. Ultimately, we're all going to be alone in one way or another. If you don't like yourself, you're going to have a hard time of it.

[kidman_nic]

I always feel as though I know more about a person after I've seen them angry. I'm terrible with birthdays, and can't remember if I wished you one or not, but just in case: happy belated, I hope it was fantastic.

[ryan_gosling]

I feel some of that way too, I think when people really reveal themselves to you then you're probably that much better aware of what they really are. Thank you, it was good.

[anna_nalick]

I agree with a lot of this, and I can see how life can be like skating on ice. Although, not all relationships are on the ice. Sometimes it takes a while, but I think everyone can find a relationship that is built on solid ground, and gets stronger with time. Right now, I've been floating a bit, going every which way. It's kind of fun.

[ryan_gosling]

I don't know how people get to that point of building things on solid ground, but I've heard of it. When you watch the news and hear of a couple celebrating 60 years together, you really find yourself wondering how they started out and what they've gone through to be what they are now. It's unfathomable. Hey, as long as you're having fun, that's great.

[anna_nalick]

Obviously, I haven't quite figured it out myself, but I won't give up trying. I love those stories, seeing those people. They often times look so happy. Life isn't always roses and sunshine, but you learn to make the best with what you have.

[russellkl]

Anger and rage are natural emotions and I think not feeling them, or allowing them to surface when you do, is more damaging than suppressing them. It's all about control in some way, though, isn't it?

[ryan_gosling]

I think it is. And that's why it can be a real problem over time, because if you're controlling everything then what exactly are you allowing? Besides stress over what you can't possibly control, and that does nothing but build up and make things even more hard on you.

[chyler]

I think sometimes people just need to be able to totally let go and lose it, you know? Just let everything that builds up and grows out. Happy belated birthday. I hope you had a really good one.

[ryan_gosling]

I think that's completely true. Those are usually dark moments, but they're probably better done if you let it all out at once instead of just letting it brood for days. Thank you, it was good!