Ahh, love day.
Kind of long, so I'm cutting it. Might not be worth reading, but meh, the words just started flowing. :P
Love Day.
There was a breif moment in time where I was quite cynical about love. Let's not get into the why, 'cause that's certainly in the past now. Then one day I watched this movie, "Love Actually", which got me all "Aww...love." again. I love being in love. Maybe it's the artist inside of me that craves it so. I draw on to it for inspiration (some of my best work came because of love for someone), and relish in it while it is there. I miss it, some times. At other times, I'm happy to be single and free of those bonds.
For some people this day is a sad reminder that they don't have a significant other. This was me for quite a long time. I used to put so much emphasis on my own happiness being about having someone to love, or having someone love me. Even when that was present...I constantly felt as though I needed it to be happy. This affected every move I made, and every word I said. It's no way to live, and sadly, it took having my heart broken to realise this.
For me, Valentine's has become more about the people who you have in your life that love you in different ways. I think as long as you have those special bonds with people, regardless of age or gender, you're never truly alone on this day.
I've noticed this for awhile now, since generally I am single on this day. There was a two year span where I was not, but...well, due to circumstances it was never "romantic", simply because it couldn't be. But you know, it was still nice even not being able to do the things I would have liked.
Then there was last year, what with my fake-date with Nicole and all. I find it amusing that there is no romantic interest there at all, and yet, that will probably always be one of the most memorable Valentine's Days I've ever spent. But it's also a good example of how one doesn't need to feel alone if they can look at their surroundings. Certainly, there is no romance there, but there is a kind of "love", and that can be just as good some times. :)
This year's wasn't eventful, but I still received a Valentine's or two from some close friends and that meant a lot to me. I'm not really all that jealous of people with someone, and Love Day isn't a bitter reminder to me of what I'm "missing out" on, because, well, I'm not really looking right now and I can find it around me. I'm happy today for that reason. :)
What's the point of this post? I can't really say. :D I guess...I know that a lot of people out there find this day to be a sad day, when really, you can find love all around you if you know where to look for it. Your happiness need not be measured in how many people you've dated, or been with, but how you feel about yourself. The day will come when you'll find that right someone. Maybe it'll be some one you've known for years, maybe it's a complete stranger, or maybe it's even a 2nd chance at a past relationship. The point is, they're out there somewhere. Be patient, and be thankful for that which you have now. :) I know I am.
Much <3 to all those that <3 me!
On a related note, this is an article I once read. I'm not sure who the author is, but it's something I enjoyed reading, and have kept. I never really had a reason to post it, but I figured it was fitting for today. :)
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Every person will need to find four people in their lives. The First person is you. The Second person is the one you love most. The Third person is the one who loves you most. And the Fourth is the one you spend the rest of your life with.
In life, firstly you will meet with the one you love most, and learn how love feels. Because you know how love feels, you can find the person who loves you most. When you have experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, you will then know what it is you need most. Then you will find the person who is most suitable for you, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.
Sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person. The one you love most doesn't love you. The one, who loves you most, is never the one you love most. And the one you spend your life with, is never the one you love most or the one who loves you most. He/she is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time. Which person are you in other people's life?
No person will purposely have a change of heart. At the point in time when they love you, they really love you. But when they don't love you anymore, they really don't love you anymore. When they love you, they can't pretend that they don't. Same goes, when they love you no more, there's no way they can pretend to love you.
When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you must ask yourself if you still love them. If you also don't love them anymore, do not keep them just to save your pride. If you still love them, you should wish them happiness, and hope that they will be with the one they love most, not stop them from it. If you stop them from finding true happiness with the one they love, it shows you already don't love them, And if you don't love them, what rights do you have to blame them for a change of heart?
Love is not possessive, if you like the moon, you can't just take it down and put it in your basin. But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let them become a permanent memory in your life. If you really love a person, you must love them for what they are. Love them for their good points, and the bad. You can't wish for them to become like what you like them to be just because you love them. If they can't change to become what you like them to be, you don't love them anymore. When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love them, you only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you.
Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, and not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test. If the relationship isn't strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate."
Love Day.
There was a breif moment in time where I was quite cynical about love. Let's not get into the why, 'cause that's certainly in the past now. Then one day I watched this movie, "Love Actually", which got me all "Aww...love." again. I love being in love. Maybe it's the artist inside of me that craves it so. I draw on to it for inspiration (some of my best work came because of love for someone), and relish in it while it is there. I miss it, some times. At other times, I'm happy to be single and free of those bonds.
For some people this day is a sad reminder that they don't have a significant other. This was me for quite a long time. I used to put so much emphasis on my own happiness being about having someone to love, or having someone love me. Even when that was present...I constantly felt as though I needed it to be happy. This affected every move I made, and every word I said. It's no way to live, and sadly, it took having my heart broken to realise this.
For me, Valentine's has become more about the people who you have in your life that love you in different ways. I think as long as you have those special bonds with people, regardless of age or gender, you're never truly alone on this day.
I've noticed this for awhile now, since generally I am single on this day. There was a two year span where I was not, but...well, due to circumstances it was never "romantic", simply because it couldn't be. But you know, it was still nice even not being able to do the things I would have liked.
Then there was last year, what with my fake-date with Nicole and all. I find it amusing that there is no romantic interest there at all, and yet, that will probably always be one of the most memorable Valentine's Days I've ever spent. But it's also a good example of how one doesn't need to feel alone if they can look at their surroundings. Certainly, there is no romance there, but there is a kind of "love", and that can be just as good some times. :)
This year's wasn't eventful, but I still received a Valentine's or two from some close friends and that meant a lot to me. I'm not really all that jealous of people with someone, and Love Day isn't a bitter reminder to me of what I'm "missing out" on, because, well, I'm not really looking right now and I can find it around me. I'm happy today for that reason. :)
What's the point of this post? I can't really say. :D I guess...I know that a lot of people out there find this day to be a sad day, when really, you can find love all around you if you know where to look for it. Your happiness need not be measured in how many people you've dated, or been with, but how you feel about yourself. The day will come when you'll find that right someone. Maybe it'll be some one you've known for years, maybe it's a complete stranger, or maybe it's even a 2nd chance at a past relationship. The point is, they're out there somewhere. Be patient, and be thankful for that which you have now. :) I know I am.
Much <3 to all those that <3 me!
On a related note, this is an article I once read. I'm not sure who the author is, but it's something I enjoyed reading, and have kept. I never really had a reason to post it, but I figured it was fitting for today. :)
"
Every person will need to find four people in their lives. The First person is you. The Second person is the one you love most. The Third person is the one who loves you most. And the Fourth is the one you spend the rest of your life with.
In life, firstly you will meet with the one you love most, and learn how love feels. Because you know how love feels, you can find the person who loves you most. When you have experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, you will then know what it is you need most. Then you will find the person who is most suitable for you, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.
Sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person. The one you love most doesn't love you. The one, who loves you most, is never the one you love most. And the one you spend your life with, is never the one you love most or the one who loves you most. He/she is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time. Which person are you in other people's life?
No person will purposely have a change of heart. At the point in time when they love you, they really love you. But when they don't love you anymore, they really don't love you anymore. When they love you, they can't pretend that they don't. Same goes, when they love you no more, there's no way they can pretend to love you.
When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you must ask yourself if you still love them. If you also don't love them anymore, do not keep them just to save your pride. If you still love them, you should wish them happiness, and hope that they will be with the one they love most, not stop them from it. If you stop them from finding true happiness with the one they love, it shows you already don't love them, And if you don't love them, what rights do you have to blame them for a change of heart?
Love is not possessive, if you like the moon, you can't just take it down and put it in your basin. But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let them become a permanent memory in your life. If you really love a person, you must love them for what they are. Love them for their good points, and the bad. You can't wish for them to become like what you like them to be just because you love them. If they can't change to become what you like them to be, you don't love them anymore. When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love them, you only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you.
Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, and not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test. If the relationship isn't strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate."