I'm sorry if my comment brought this upangel_guardiaMarch 30 2009, 21:16:44 UTC
It's true that no one has posted in a while, but that was only a bad thing insofar as I had nothing new to read lol. I wasn't exactly meaning that you had to post something, particularly if you didn't want to.
On a similar, yet very different note, I'm sorry that things aren't working/won't work out with her. This may sound harsh, but ... you gave it a shot, twice, and now it's time to move on. I know you know that, but it doesn't seem like you are, to be honest. I know it's easier said than done, and I know these words are all redundant and cliche, but moving on is the best thing you can do. Accept the fact that you are just friends, cherish the time you get to spend together as friends, and let go of the feelings that would mean you're looking for you to be more than friends, or you might lose her even as a friend.
Re: I'm sorry if my comment brought this upsadrachMarch 30 2009, 21:59:03 UTC
Yes, very harsh. Except harsh isn't the word I'd use to describe it. The word that I'd choose would be 'stupid.'
Stupid because I clearly don't get over people - ever. In fact, to this day, whenever I see someone I had been interested in in the past, I can't help the 'what if' feelings that come along, unbidden. Yes, moving on may be the best thing I can do, but if I don't think I'm actually capable of moving on without a proper sense of closure, then clearly, I should keep dwelling until such time as I can safely enter a new relationship.
The truth is that I can't cherish the time I spend with her as friends, because there barely is any. I can't accept that we are just friends, because, in my mind, there's no reason for that limit to exist.
It might honestly be easier to try again, and lose her as a friend. Then it wouldn't hurt everytime I tried to get her attention and she completely ignores it.
Re: I'm sorry if my comment brought this upangel_guardiaMarch 31 2009, 04:50:00 UTC
I'm sorry.
You told me to voice my opinion more, and this is me doing it. That's my opinion, and you can take it or leave it, as you wish.
You know yourself better than I do, and therefore you know how your mind works better than I do. But from where I stand, it seems like it would be better if you moved on. If you disagree, it's your prerogative.
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On a similar, yet very different note, I'm sorry that things aren't working/won't work out with her. This may sound harsh, but ... you gave it a shot, twice, and now it's time to move on. I know you know that, but it doesn't seem like you are, to be honest. I know it's easier said than done, and I know these words are all redundant and cliche, but moving on is the best thing you can do. Accept the fact that you are just friends, cherish the time you get to spend together as friends, and let go of the feelings that would mean you're looking for you to be more than friends, or you might lose her even as a friend.
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Stupid because I clearly don't get over people - ever. In fact, to this day, whenever I see someone I had been interested in in the past, I can't help the 'what if' feelings that come along, unbidden. Yes, moving on may be the best thing I can do, but if I don't think I'm actually capable of moving on without a proper sense of closure, then clearly, I should keep dwelling until such time as I can safely enter a new relationship.
The truth is that I can't cherish the time I spend with her as friends, because there barely is any. I can't accept that we are just friends, because, in my mind, there's no reason for that limit to exist.
It might honestly be easier to try again, and lose her as a friend. Then it wouldn't hurt everytime I tried to get her attention and she completely ignores it.
Just saying.
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You told me to voice my opinion more, and this is me doing it. That's my opinion, and you can take it or leave it, as you wish.
You know yourself better than I do, and therefore you know how your mind works better than I do. But from where I stand, it seems like it would be better if you moved on. If you disagree, it's your prerogative.
I truly am sorry, though.
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