Comments | sahd_man: growing up

sahd_man

growing up

Sep 12, 2005 10:34

i have been thinking alot about growing up since harper started k-5. why is it so hard for us to let our kids grow up? isn't that what they are supposed to do? i think i have it figured out. or at least i think i have it figured out for me ( Read more... )

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figglesburg September 12 2005, 16:38:08 UTC

Dear Dumbledore in Drag,

thats deep.

i always admire your moments of reflection.

i think maybe your right, but a bit hard on yourself.

i also think (since i have no kids) that maybe i shouldnt have commented?

but i am. because i like your enlightening thought processes.

you bleep up the cludge like no man i have ever known!

caulfieldkid September 13 2005, 02:11:17 UTC

youre out of your fucking element jeremy.

wtf? sahd_man September 13 2005, 02:22:04 UTC

am i being too sentimental or what? why am i out of my element?

Re: wtf? caulfieldkid September 13 2005, 02:50:28 UTC

not at all....

im just saying,
i think we all feel deficient/disfunctional/discordant/disdisdis as parents.

i think we are all 'out of our element' in this life.

it just sucks man.
it just sucks.

i DO care more about myself than anyone.
i know that.
i hate it.
but its true.

honestly,
i was more 'funnin' than anything.

but its worth saying that
i think your thoughts are natural......
in this life.

i cant wait to die.......
dont you love how i make about a thousand 'i' references
about your post....
more evidence that i love me more than you.

sentimental no.
human yes.
aware yes.
realistic yes.
good parent yes.
good father yes.
good husband, ask your own damn wife you mother fucker.

blackflipflops September 13 2005, 03:55:54 UTC

i concur on so many levels- about me, myself, not you.

you know already that this is something i struggle with.

plus the intense fear of em (+ other future kids) growing up and despising me or feeling alienated from me like i do with my parents.

i think a lot of it does rest on the fact that you end up getting so used to this little person 100% relying on you, that when they come to the point where they don't need you in some areas, instead of feeling relief from carrying that load, we become jealous or needy again.

i don't know. i'm rambling and i'm tired.

but yeah, i agree, for myself & the feelings i'm beginning to have on this journey of parenthood.

btw, you and christa are great parents who i see allow their kids to be their own persons. i think that's way admirable... and a lot harder said than done. :)