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why should anyone ever have to fall out of love?
this might seem incredibly stupid; therefore, feel free, absolutely free, not to read the rest of this. but you read at your own discretion, this is my own stupidity at work here.
i seriously hadnt contemplated this. i had somehow missed it. amidst all the 'fall in love as much as you can!' and 'love just gets stronger, the more people you fall for!' and 'the more pain you've seen, the stronger you love!' i totally forgot to consider an alternative. why not just love. as in, love someone, and dont worry about what you've done in the past or what theyve done in the past or experience or jadedness or anything like that.
why am i (why are we?) caught up with all the numerical issues? ie, how many people have you dated or fallen for before?...how can you be sure that its 'love' if you've never loved someone before?
whywhywhy? we read these stories, these romance novels, we read anne of green gables and rebecca of sunnybrook farm and the dear america series, and by chapter 13 we know, deep inside, who this person is 'meant' to be with. we can tell and sense the spark between mr. adam ladd and rebecca. between gilbert and anne. in the stories, we can accept it and when they FINALLY get together we breathe a collective sigh of relief at the released tension and go 'well. there. that was meant to be.'
so why can't we just RELAX and let ourselves LOVE without worrying so damn much?
and:
'One must live as if it would be forever, and as if one might die each moment. Always both at once.' --Renault