Urgh.

[sakurabatou]

I am reminded why I usually listen to my own body instead of other people. I pulled an all-nighter thinking I could get more work done that way, (because it's finals week and all the cool kids are doing it) but now I'm shaking so badly I can't really hold a pencil or stylus, let alone draw straight lines with it. I got about as much work done as I

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[spanish_silver]

Your mom is really weird :\ She needs to back off and let you have the independence she wants you to have. The hotel idea is ridiculous, college kids don't do that. Maybe you should have a talk with your mom and really draw out boundaries for what you should be allowed to do, in terms of having Aki stay over and for your own independence too.

Hang in there :] I can't pull all-nighters either, so you're not alone in that D:

[sakurabatou]

I've half given up on reasoning with her because it never works, but it's still frustrating. People keep telling me to put my foot down with her, but I guess I'm too nice or something. *sigh* IDK, I guess I'm easily guilted by the whole "WELL IF YOU LOVE ME YOU'LL ______" sort of thing. I'm just equally hurt by the fact that my mom doesn't seem to think my relationship with Aki is as important as family. So I really hate it when she forces me to choose between them. It's a lose-lose situation: if I pick my family Aki feels hurt or like I'm being pushed around, if I pick her my mom thinks she's manipulating me or I'm being horribly selfish and an awful daughter.

...and this is why I never dated in high school. XD

[spanish_silver]

My grandmother used to use that kind of phrase a lot on my mom when she was trying to convince her not to marry my dad, the whole "why are you doing this to me, if you love me you'll __" And it's not about her, it's not about your mom, and that's a really unfair way to negotiate with someone. Even if you don't want to take a hard line with your mom, you can ask her not to use that kind of underhanded tactic with you. If you don't settle these kinds of power things now, they might get worse in the future :\

[actourdreams]

"usually when couples want alone time they get a hotel room"

So your mother is encouraging you to go conduct your relationship in an illicit manner, when you have a safe and private space already (your girlfriend's house)? That's preposterous.

because I fell in love with someone that's not amazingly mom-friendly and perfect like Joe must mean there's SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME

Yeeaah, I suspect that's more the problem, at least, from what I've heard. :/

[sakurabatou]

She was even ready to call Aki's mom and ask if it was true she knew we were together and let us sleep together anyway. :| *SIGHHHH* mom logic really isn't logic at all.

Yeah, basically...I get lucky with parents who won't disown me for being gay, but of course they disapprove of my choice of who to date. I just can't win. Well, really it's just my mom. My dad doesn't really care either way. >.-

[akerushin]

Uh yeah.. sex and relationships. Plenty of people have sex with people they don't love. They call it hooking up. I'd remind her about that. And oh, the new reports that STDs are on the rise. XD

[emurii]

aghghgh your mom

I'm sorry :[

Good luck!! (And, I don't think it's weird to just want to sleep with someone without sex. It's a different need.)

[sakurabatou]

Yeahhhh my mom. I guess it could be worse.

(exactly. Neither of us are ready for more than that, but we're comforted by being with each other.)

She keeps saying "well even if you're not ready now you will be eventually" but does she really think I'm stupid enough to have sex IN MY HOUSE? I'm not my brother...*rolls eyes*