My gynecologist told me my ovaries are perfect, my uterus is in fine condition, my blood test is good, and that even though I am 42, I can still have children
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I was just telling Larry last night that I wish I could have another baby. At 56 having had a total hysterectomy and my health is isn't possible but the desire is there.
You know anything is possible and you may just beat that deadline. I know I've asked Jill to get pregnant but she says no, she's going to wait until she gets married and do it the old fashioned way. I tried. LOL.
I do hope that you find peace with this either way. I know we wanted a large family of 12 stair step children (me preferring all daughters) but I only had one working ovary. So it wasn't meant to be.
The way the world is today I wonder if I were Jillian's age if I would bring one into this world? It is so different than in the 50s and 60s when I was growing up. But then all generations say that I'm sure.
Either way, I do hope that children are in your future. Are you into maybe having one alone? Even people who get married often end up supporting and raising them alone. I wouldn't let a lack of marriage take this dream away if it is that important. JMHO.
I just don't think it's a good idea, living with my mom and my sister. Mom is 70. I don't think she has the patience to have her life upheaved like that, and a baby would change things for all of us. If I lived alone or, really, if I was involved with a man who would stick by me, I'd consider it. You can't just stick a baby into any old situation and expect it to just fall into place. That's not fair to the child who will grow up to be an adult that says "what in the fuck were you thinking?!"
Sometimes I can barely stand being here. Raising a child here would be fucking insane, in many ways. But it sure is nice to think I can have them if I wanted them. I am barely treated like an adult - if I had a child, I'd be treated like a child with a baby. That's the worst of it.
WAit. Let me rethink my reply, which, to me, sounded too filled with vitriol.In the place I'm at now, a baby would not fit. It would not be wise, and would not be best for baby. I guess I want a baby in my own space, with people I really know will not only love the baby, but love and support me, believe in me to be at my best and not knock me while I'm learning to be a good guide and loving parent. Where I'm at now just would not be ideal for me or my lovely baby.
I've actually had similar thoughts and reservations, but in my case it was about getting another cat! I don't currently have one, but I did have two at one point, and they lived to be 13 and 18 years old, respectively. After all that time living with them, it really broke my heart when they died, and so that weighs heavily on my mind whenever I think I'm about to adopt a new one. I do live alone, and live in a cat-accepting apt building, but I'm currently without a regular job, so I'm not sure how good a provider I would be. Plus, I found out mid-way thru living with my previous cats that I'm allergic to them, and that combined with my somewhat inconsistent house cleaning habits made for a bad situation with my immune system. So anyway, not as big a decision as having a child, but a big one for me, at least.
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You know anything is possible and you may just beat that deadline. I know I've asked Jill to get pregnant but she says no, she's going to wait until she gets married and do it the old fashioned way. I tried. LOL.
I do hope that you find peace with this either way. I know we wanted a large family of 12 stair step children (me preferring all daughters) but I only had one working ovary. So it wasn't meant to be.
The way the world is today I wonder if I were Jillian's age if I would bring one into this world? It is so different than in the 50s and 60s when I was growing up. But then all generations say that I'm sure.
Either way, I do hope that children are in your future. Are you into maybe having one alone? Even people who get married often end up supporting and raising them alone. I wouldn't let a lack of marriage take this dream away if it is that important. JMHO.
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Sometimes I can barely stand being here. Raising a child here would be fucking insane, in many ways. But it sure is nice to think I can have them if I wanted them. I am barely treated like an adult - if I had a child, I'd be treated like a child with a baby. That's the worst of it.
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