Comments | samaranth: Valentine’s Day

samaranth

Valentine’s Day

Feb 14, 2012 13:36

I almost feel obliged to write this, not as a ‘this is utter nonsense’ or ‘woe is me, it no longer applies’ post (actually, it never did...I never received cards/flowers/chocolates; the philosophy with my former significant other was once you were in a relationship there was no need of it; as we went ‘in’ to our relationship in March-somewhat ( Read more... )

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sistermagpie February 14 2012, 03:18:43 UTC

These are great thoughts for Valentine's Day, Sam! Luckily you are a very interesting person, so you'll be interesting to grow old with. ;-) Besides, there are so many things about ourselves that our 15 year old selves would be horrified by, it's kind of fun to shock them.

samaranth February 15 2012, 11:59:10 UTC

I'm not sure who's more shocked - my 15 year old self, or my not-15 year old one! And you're right, it's fun and really interesting to run against type, even if that means willingly doing what once would have horrified.

(And thanks, Magpie :) )

jewelsong February 14 2012, 11:03:47 UTC

Welcome to my world. I've been in this space for a while now...and I'm as happy (or at least content) as most other people. Yeah, a warm body in the bed or a person to talk to in the evenings would be nice. But I'm all done spending precious energy on "finding" one. I have great kids, a family, friends, a job and my health. I travel, hike, play music, enjoy life.

If one day, a Person should come along and it "clicks" - well, I'm not opposed! But I'm also not worrying about it.

samaranth February 15 2012, 12:02:56 UTC

I think the company I'm keeping now is much more congenial than before. Certainly more well-balanced. :)

I did find it rather disconcerting that people were saying things like 'You'll find someone else' virtually minutes after the whole marriage thing collapsed in a heap. That was the *last* thing on my mind. Now I find it's not on my mind at all (except for yesterday). I finally want to just get on and enjoy my life the way it is now - and in this you are a great inspiration!

shirebound February 14 2012, 13:36:07 UTC

So am I. (Except for the puppy, of course.)

*showers you with chocolate and flowers*

samaranth February 15 2012, 12:05:14 UTC

Flowers! I love flowers! Thank you!

There's something very honest about the love of a puppy, and of a kitty cat, isn't there. Now there's something I will definitely think about in another year or so...we miss having a cat very, very much.

rosiethehobbit February 14 2012, 13:49:45 UTC

This is a very good way to approach Valentines Day. There is a lot to be said for not having to answer to anyone. I've been there, even if that isn't my situation currently. It is amazing how much we grow and change over the years. I know my 15 year old self would probably run in screaming horror from my current self.

I know lots of people who are constantly pushing the happily single crowd to get married/re-married. I find that to be very rude and narrow minded. Being on your own can be very liberating and fulfilling, and it's none of their damn business anyway.

Buy yourself some chocolate and spend the evening the way YOU want to spend it. You've earned it.

samaranth February 15 2012, 12:14:44 UTC

Thanks Rosie. I'm enjoying the peace of this, very much.

I work with someone who seems keen to set me up with someone. She keeps giving me advice on who would be right for me - she thinks I should go for money over looks 'at my time of life'. Given that I'm not actually meeting anyone (good-looking or otherwise,wealthy or poor as a church mouse) it's all a bit pointless. She's not known for her sensitivity but she's not being mean, just slightly thoughtless. It's really rather amusing, in a bizarre kind of way.

I tend to think my 15 year old self would be wagging a finger at me and saying 'beware, beware, you're turning into your own mother', actually. I do need to dust off my sense of adventure and go out and have some fun! We all should. :)

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samaranth February 15 2012, 12:26:57 UTC

Exactly. And precisely. There is so much to be enjoyed in Life - and so much that each person can give back to it - it's a waste to spend time searching/waiting/yearning.

(But not dreaming. There should always be a little space for dreaming...imagining...I mean, look at your icon... *sigh* )

And yes, I wouldn't say no either. I'm not *that* militant about being solo. :D