Poly Validity.

[sammasati]

Is polyamorous another word for player?

Someone raised that question to me recently when I was discussing polyamory with them, and it's sure got me thinking.

Even if it was, does it matter?

Comments

[mz_inky]

I think there's a difference. People who are open about their polyamory aren't out to be sneaky or hurt anyone. It just is what it is. I guess if you're doing it secretively then you could be considered a player.

[sammasati]

I concur. It's just a sentiment I run into sometimes, as though poly people can't choose one mate so they live a poly lifestyle out of convenience. I mean, that hasn't been my experience at all with encountering people that are and they just tend to think that love is not an exclusive thing that turns off except to the one person with whom you are in relationship. Makes a lot of sense.

I think even if you are honest, it is hard to give everyone the attention they need and deserve. That's an important part of it, imo, that people don't recognize. But then I think it is the role of a lover who is feeling anxious, etc. to express that concern to his or her partner; it's just that most people have a hard time vocalizing their needs.

[helkaminuialion]

you a poly-playa.

[sammasati]

I do not deny this.

[x3n]

I prefer the term "Baller".

[sammasati]

Can a woman be a baller?

[x3n]

I don't think so but the WNBA does exist.

Wow.

[evrywhereizwar]

I pictured you asking someone this question in person -- brow knitted, gaze narrowed, and lips a bit pouted. And that was the funniest thing I've imagined all evening!

What up?!

PS have you noticed what's happening?