(Untitled)

[sammiebabe]

I've been feeling a certain way for a while but I haven't said anything to anyone. I don't even think I've been honest with myself. The truth is, I am so lonely. I know I'm not alone, but for some reason, I feel so lonely. I don't have anything outside of my family and my job thats really just for me. I have no real friends. I don't have time for

Comments

[baloki]

:(

[gigaguess]

Go see someone. For your own sake, just do it. You'll keep agonizing over it until you do.

[ryechu]

Yes, you should go see someone, for you. *hugs*

[roto13]

You're not dreaming about abusing your kids.

People dream using familiar images and people. Right now, your children are the children in your life and you are the parent. Obviously, when you were abused, you were the child and your parents were the parents. Your dreams are about your own abuse. You putting your kids in the place of the victim and yourself in the place of the parent is a defense mechanism. (This is all what Dilcio told me, so it might lose something in translation, but I think that's the gist of it. I didn't tell him who was having the problem, either. :P)

It would be good for you to seek counselling. Not just because of the dreams, but because you're bored and sad all of the time. Just don't feel guilty about the dreams. You're not going to suddenly up and start abusing your kids or anything. :P You love them and you'd never do anything like that to them.

[ryechu]

Yup, you're right, Roto. Dreams always have a deeper meaning than they do at face value. I learned this in psychology. The people you dream about are just symbols for deeper things.

[anaisa_amazing]

There are some medications that can stop nightmares. Antihistamines and benzodiazepines can both stop dreaming. Although apparently you can only take them for a certain length of time to stop your dreams. If you use them for too long, the effect will wear off, and you'll start dreaming again. Most peoples nightmares don't go on night after night for that long a time though, so they should probably be able to help rid you of them for as long as they're there.

I hope you find something that makes you feel happier.

[roto13]

That would just be removing the symptom without the cause.

[anaisa_amazing]

I didn't claim it would be the solution to all her problems, I suggested a way to rid herself of the nightmares temporarily. Counselling won't remove the cause either, yet you suggested it as a good idea. And where as usually I wouldn't really be concerned about you looking for excuses to bicker with me, I'd consider having a petty argument with you under these circumstances, disrespectful, and incredibly low. So I won't be responding to you again.

[roto13]

Counseling would, indeed, help her deal with the cause. That's the point.