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I just sort of got out of the habit of classifying people's clothes as "drag" or "not drag" or whatever. The more important questions are whether the clothes are becoming to the person wearing them, and how well hir wears them. Guy in a Dior cocktail dress? If he has the legs to carry it off, more power to him. Lady in a clawhammer tux? That's cool too, especially if it's been tailored to fit her properly.
Everyone has the right to wear ugly clothes that don't become them. Even those who prefer clothes that don't socially match their presenting gender. Even those who prefer to identify as something other than a point on a gender binary.
And I get tagged "butch" or "dyke" even when dossed out for court in 'traditional' women's wear. (I have an old-fashioned sexist boss. Professional women are not supposed to wear trousers in court. Even if both attorneys and the female judge are wearing them. (He also describes women almost solely by looks or "attitude".) Bless his pointy-headed little mind.)
I dunno. There's something that's unquantifiable that has nothing to do with any of the usual determining bits that seems to make a difference. And it's totally separate from orientation or sometimes even preferred gender identity.
It's what's going on when you have folks in the exact same clothing and can tick off "gid-male", "butch", "tomboy femme", "femme in drab" and "poser" just by the way they carry themselves and how they "feel".
I'm afraid it's a lot like art and obscenity - I don't know how to define it, but I know it when I see it and feel it.
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I guess I'll never understand what makes someone or something feminine vs masculine.
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I dunno. There's something that's unquantifiable that has nothing to do with any of the usual determining bits that seems to make a difference. And it's totally separate from orientation or sometimes even preferred gender identity.
It's what's going on when you have folks in the exact same clothing and can tick off "gid-male", "butch", "tomboy femme", "femme in drab" and "poser" just by the way they carry themselves and how they "feel".
I'm afraid it's a lot like art and obscenity - I don't know how to define it, but I know it when I see it and feel it.
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