Universal plot Device.

[sangochan]

I got an interesting message today from a random person wanting to know what my quote on myspace meant. Normally, since it was from someone I've never met, online or in MeatSpace, I'd have just ignored the message, because I'm generally not up to talking to people I don't know

Comments

[padawanspider]

One thing I've noticed, at least in your LJ (which I'm sure is in no way a complete picture of you) is that you don't ask for favors. Ever. You'll ask people not to do things, and you'll ask for, say, clarification of what someone wants that you're going to do for them, but you keep viewing yourself as responsible for other people's happiness and yet you don't really give directives for others to be kind to you.

Just something I noticed.

[sangochan]

I rarely ask others to do things for me. If I say "can you do me a favor?" it's a rare thing.

I learned young that "if you want something done right, you're going to have to do it yourself". There's a drow proverb that follows along that line: "Never allow your inferiors to do you a favor, it will prove costly."

I also learned that you can never rely on other people to do what they say they are going to. In the event people DO actually do was they say they will, I generally look at it as a happy bonus, not something I expect. Expecting anything positive out of other human beings is asking to be let down.

[lrdilpalazzo]

You know I remeber a time when I was in a similar mood as you sound to be now. Proving that what I guess can be your theory you gave me some of the best advice that I think I have ever gotten

[vorkon]

You're probably the only person I know who can simultaneously give themselves way too much and far too little credit, all in the same package. :op

[asimovforever1]

Even furniture must have its day, right? At least I hope so, cause otherwise my hard work and sacrifices will have meant nothing.

The sadder thing is how now, that I have lost most of my friends and the impact I make on others lives has been reduced to that of a stone dropped on a still pond, I am at my happiest and most content. I tried so hard to help people, to be the person people could rely on, to be a peacemaker and a facilitator. And it wasn't worth it. Its best to work to make yourself happy and make others happy with spillover happiness. To give of yourself, to hurt yourself for the sake of others is just not going to work out.

...I really suck at trying to explain what I'm trying to. I guess that I just like having you existing in this world. To me, thats more than enough.