I know my viewpoint is quite different from yours, but for what it's worth, I can kind of understand.
I really wanted to have my first child by the time I was thirty. Obviously, I don't have one yet. On the other hand, my life--and the life of my kids--would probably have been awful, given whom I might have had them with.
"You can't control the wind, but you can choose how you set your sails." That's all I've been able to do, and that's really all you can do, and have been doing. You don't always like it. I don't always like it.
Having said that, my life, while still not where I wanted it to be at this point, is far better than it would have been if things had kept going the way they did, and I appreciate I. far more after being with K. than I would have if I'd been with her first. Maybe it means you'll appreciate your children when you do get them than you would have if they'd been "easy" to have. ("Easy", because from what I've seen, it's the rare moment that children are easy to deal with.)
I know it was always my "goal" to have a child/be pregnant by the time I was 30. When we got the positive Dave was like..well you made your goal! And i guess as the weeks get closer to my birthday and I am not pregnant and do not have a baby, it kinda sucks. First goal I really had that I didn't meet.
Heh it's funny I mean I will wait as long as I have to, we will have a baby some day..but my doctors and nurses love telling me that there is time, I'm still young! And yet, in 5 years they will be singing another tune.
Hey! Dave sent an invite on facebook for my birthday party and invited you! Check it if you haven't already.
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I really wanted to have my first child by the time I was thirty. Obviously, I don't have one yet. On the other hand, my life--and the life of my kids--would probably have been awful, given whom I might have had them with.
"You can't control the wind, but you can choose how you set your sails."
That's all I've been able to do, and that's really all you can do, and have been doing. You don't always like it. I don't always like it.
Having said that, my life, while still not where I wanted it to be at this point, is far better than it would have been if things had kept going the way they did, and I appreciate I. far more after being with K. than I would have if I'd been with her first. Maybe it means you'll appreciate your children when you do get them than you would have if they'd been "easy" to have. ("Easy", because from what I've seen, it's the rare moment that children are easy to deal with.)
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Heh it's funny I mean I will wait as long as I have to, we will have a baby some day..but my doctors and nurses love telling me that there is time, I'm still young! And yet, in 5 years they will be singing another tune.
Hey! Dave sent an invite on facebook for my birthday party and invited you! Check it if you haven't already.
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