I agree that there should be some kind of equality in a relationship. And as far as I am concerned, this equality should be on a level of emotional maturity. I feel less need to be equal in terms of income, or intelligence, or is social status. But in terms of emotional maturity, partners must match.
Now as you well know, I am 15 years older than my fiancee, but I don't feel more mature than she is. Yes, there are times when I am the stable and sensible factor, when she is the nervous wreck. But the opposite happens just as often.
Miriam didn't go through a lot of the stuff I went through, but it seems like she didn't need that. I needed to get through all that, to become who I am today, but Miriam grew up quite a mature and stable woman without going through all that. So we're on the same level, more or less. Weird, but true.
I agree, being at the same emotional level is very important in a relationship.
It's not about being the same, it is about being equal. No matter how much money you make or what your role is in the relationship, it should always be equal. And that doesn't mean everyone should have the same role. Maybe one is more the caregiver while the other is more the provider, that is all fine, but you still need to be equal.
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I feel less need to be equal in terms of income, or intelligence, or is social status. But in terms of emotional maturity, partners must match.
Now as you well know, I am 15 years older than my fiancee, but I don't feel more mature than she is.
Yes, there are times when I am the stable and sensible factor, when she is the nervous wreck. But the opposite happens just as often.
Miriam didn't go through a lot of the stuff I went through, but it seems like she didn't need that. I needed to get through all that, to become who I am today, but Miriam grew up quite a mature and stable woman without going through all that.
So we're on the same level, more or less.
Weird, but true.
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It's not about being the same, it is about being equal. No matter how much money you make or what your role is in the relationship, it should always be equal. And that doesn't mean everyone should have the same role. Maybe one is more the caregiver while the other is more the provider, that is all fine, but you still need to be equal.
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