Epic ramble...

[satanslisunbeam]

Am I not understanding some basic rule of being gay? Am I defective? I have had so many people in the last few days in utter awe of the fact that I'm not dating anyone, out looking, or interested. From the "why not" to the attitude I get when I turn down a date, I'm completely gobsmacked

Comments

[artisticskin]

Totally with you there. When my last relationship broke up. Even though it was a shitty relationship, it took me a while to get back to where I wanted to try again. I understand where yo are and fuck em if they don't. You need to be with you right now and get our own shit sorted out. I respect you more for knowing that and taking your time.

[pink_halen]

This is your journey, not ours. You will find someone when the right circumstances align. Until that time, Please just be you.

I'm glad that you are finding yourself a wonderful man. What better gift could you get from a relationship?

Hugs from Denver

[bigfundrew]

ya know..... people can be dumb
to quote a big black man while pretending to be a big black woman, "People do some stupid shit, just to say they're in a relationship."

I've found a lot of men in gaydom that just can't understand if you aren't constantly, feverishly working to be in a relationship. Then, they get it in, and are like, "Whew...I have meaning now....heeeeeeeeeeeyyy...what's that over there? Helller!"

Take time to love yourself. Find your own happy.

[whobyfire78]

I think you're wise to not rush back into dating. The reason people are giving you attitude about it, I'm guessing, is because #1 they either want to date you, or #2 they are the type to rebound from guy to guy, and are insecure enough in their own choices/beliefs that it rubs them the wrong way when someone chooses a different path.

In either case...it's their shit, not yours, and if they can't deal with it, fuck 'em.

[jaycifier]

You're fine and you are not defective. In fact, your posts have been more upbeat than usual. True you are going to be down at time; hell who wouldn't be.

You're going to figure out when you are ready for whatever comes your way.

You are still in love with him. And I think he maybe too but both of you have to figure your lives out and get yourselves straightened first.

And that's what you are doing. Becoming better every day.