Yesterday, I had the weirdest moment of... I'm not really sure what to call it. Social justice dissonance? Acceptance dissonance? Someone tell me the best terminology
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I may have seen that same ad, but weirdly I didn't react to it the way you did. Poses like that are pretty common for fashion ads; this industry has never been shy about exploiting "edgy" homoerotic imagery.
Hmm. If I were standing next to that man, I would have probably turned to him and said something like, "Can you believe that asshole?" While it's good to express your feelings, I kind of think making a big deal about it would put the person on the spot and make them feel uncomfortable or even insulted. I don't really need someone to apologize to me about my marginalized status and tell me how badly off I am, like I'm not fully and daily aware of it myself. That's kind of condescending. It's good enough if they recognize and disapprove of it.
I guess I don't look at many fashion ads? I remember being struck by how sweet they looked.
Yeah, you're definitely right. When I was thinking those thoughts, I was aware by how patronizing that it would come off as, even if I wasn't intending to (reaction > intention), and that if something similar to that ever happened to me, I wouldn't want random strangers walking up to me afterwards. Though, I want to clarify that when I said I wanted to apologize, I didn't mean, 'I'm sorry that you're marginalized,' but 'I'm sorry you experienced that bit of asshole-ishness.' Unless it still comes off as condescending?
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Hmm. If I were standing next to that man, I would have probably turned to him and said something like, "Can you believe that asshole?" While it's good to express your feelings, I kind of think making a big deal about it would put the person on the spot and make them feel uncomfortable or even insulted. I don't really need someone to apologize to me about my marginalized status and tell me how badly off I am, like I'm not fully and daily aware of it myself. That's kind of condescending. It's good enough if they recognize and disapprove of it.
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Yeah, you're definitely right. When I was thinking those thoughts, I was aware by how patronizing that it would come off as, even if I wasn't intending to (reaction > intention), and that if something similar to that ever happened to me, I wouldn't want random strangers walking up to me afterwards. Though, I want to clarify that when I said I wanted to apologize, I didn't mean, 'I'm sorry that you're marginalized,' but 'I'm sorry you experienced that bit of asshole-ishness.' Unless it still comes off as condescending?
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