I agree with everyone on here. So many wise ladies! I think you won the breakup by not being an asshole. You have so many great friends, you have a new job (which I want to hear about one of these days!), and by the way you are super hot. Like way too hot for that asshat. Seriously, it sounds like he is very insecure about the whole situation, and is taking it out in a mean and childish way. He SUCKS, and you RULE, and I hope you are feeling way better now you've had a little time to recover from the event. Your person is out there, you just keep being awesome (eg. being YOU) and they will find you soon enough. Lots of love.
It sounds like he went out of his way to try to 'win' the break-up and hurt you by bringing along his new (less awesome) girlfriend, which makes him an arsehole in my opinion.
I think you won the break up by not being an awful human being about it, which he clearly was.
It's no one's business how long you take to get over it, but just know we are all cheering for you and wishing you the best.
There's no right way to grieve, and that's what you're doing. It takes as long as it takes. Hell, I still have dreams about the guy in college that basically destroyed my life - my brain auto defaults to him when I'm dreaming of being in a relationship with someone and it's been nearly 20 years since we were together.
High school reunions are filled with landmines that you don't realize until you're in them. I loved getting the chance to see everyone again and catch up, but at the same time omg was I glad that I never had to go back and be that person again.
I didn't go to my reunion. So right of the bat, you are way more confident than I could ever be. I was a kind of a nerdy social butterfly in high school - I wasn't the queen bee, but I was the one who connected one group to another. I was much braver and then right after high school I had a falling out with the queen bee (and was egged on my by then BFF) to cut ties and, therefore, to the rest of the group. Those who remained were weaned off when I decided to not be the social butterfly and wait for someone to call me for a change, and they didn't take the hint. So my circle from high school went down in flames. Those who I stayed in contact with are from the year ahead of me. I have no desire to see anyone from my class anyway. I've actually run into classmates and they've been shocked I had no idea they were in my class. They were like I was football so and so or head cheerleader so and so, and I'm like were you in my AP English class? No. Then, why would I remember you.
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Because I will do it if you need me to.
edit: i'm totes aware this is not the most mature reaction, but i'm 22 and I haven't had a true ex in six years I CAN BE THIS WAY IF I WANT.
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I think you won the break up by not being an awful human being about it, which he clearly was.
It's no one's business how long you take to get over it, but just know we are all cheering for you and wishing you the best.
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High school reunions are filled with landmines that you don't realize until you're in them. I loved getting the chance to see everyone again and catch up, but at the same time omg was I glad that I never had to go back and be that person again.
*hugs*
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