It's ages since I posted properly. There is a reason for this. I didn't want to drag you all through the trivia of my days at such a time as this. It would be boring to everyone, including me
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Just remember that you don't need fake nails and facials just because Em thinks you should have them. If you hate them and you aren't the kind of person who's going to feel like shit if she doesn't have them, then drop the idea in favour of keeping your sanity.
Most importantly of all - the only "must haves" on your wedding day are a groom, someone to register the marriage, and a damn good time. Everything else is expendable, even the dress.
Prior to this experience I would have agreed with you absolutely.
Intellectually I still do.
But weddings are really insidious. They creep into your life and tell you all the things you must have. It may sound as though I have rolled over and played dead; in actual fact I have successfully resisted the vast majority of wedding trivia.
God help all those who disappear under the tidal wave. And pity those whose relationships are proven not to be strong enough to survive it; they are just left with the debt.
How does a wedding tell you what to do? You are its creator, how dare it talk back? Kick its head in!
Or alternatively, treat the make-up/hair stuff as a fun, not too serious accessory... surely it's just about feeling pretty, and if you're shining with happiness from within, you can probably dispense with it. False nails, for example are a total hoot but if you are torn between feeling awkward, and wanting to have gorgeous hands for close up ring photos, your own nails with a french manicure will do the job - and no possibility of viciously impaling the groom with deadly pinging acrylics!
Most people prefer to rely upon more than inner glow... the feeling of every detail being gorgeous in a way they have planned, beauty within their control, which is cool too, but I can well understand how this could spiral into nightmare. You've nothing to prove, either of you, cos you're in love and you're DDG. Pampering without aim may help. Imagine those wonderful turkish baths you are going to enjoy on your honeymoon!
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1. Go somewhere with one driving, one navigating
2. Moving a heavy piece of furniture together
3. Organising the dratted wedding
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And we got someone else to do the 'producer' for the wedding.
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Did that involve throwing vast sums of money at the problem?
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It was Panda aka Wisewoman of the tribe, who runs a theatre company. (www.pirateutopia.org)
Best wedding present ever.
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Most importantly of all - the only "must haves" on your wedding day are a groom, someone to register the marriage, and a damn good time. Everything else is expendable, even the dress.
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Intellectually I still do.
But weddings are really insidious. They creep into your life and tell you all the things you must have. It may sound as though I have rolled over and played dead; in actual fact I have successfully resisted the vast majority of wedding trivia.
God help all those who disappear under the tidal wave. And pity those whose relationships are proven not to be strong enough to survive it; they are just left with the debt.
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Or alternatively, treat the make-up/hair stuff as a fun, not too serious accessory... surely it's just about feeling pretty, and if you're shining with happiness from within, you can probably dispense with it. False nails, for example are a total hoot but if you are torn between feeling awkward, and wanting to have gorgeous hands for close up ring photos, your own nails with a french manicure will do the job - and no possibility of viciously impaling the groom with deadly pinging acrylics!
Most people prefer to rely upon more than inner glow... the feeling of every detail being gorgeous in a way they have planned, beauty within their control, which is cool too, but I can well understand how this could spiral into nightmare. You've nothing to prove, either of you, cos you're in love and you're DDG. Pampering without aim may help. Imagine those wonderful turkish baths you are going to enjoy on your honeymoon!
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