If someone is not paying you to do the job - and these don't sound like jobs, to me - I don't see why they should have some say in it.
My son's pediatrician told us that ASD children, because of motor control issues, did "well" in karate, Tae Kwon Do, or, at the other end, soccer.
So, I and my six year old went to Karate together. And I ended up being the only adult in the kids' class as a student.
He was enormously frustrated because *all* the other kids zipped past him, in obvious progress (belt colors), when he had been there the longest. And that? Was heartbreaking, for me. I didn't take the tests until he was judged ready to take them, so I stayed at his belt level.
But I would remind him, time and again, that some people are better at physical activities than others, and some are genuinely natively talented -- and that we (he and I) were not among those people, but that it didn't matter. There was no rush. It didn't matter if we learned the kata in one week or in two years - as long as we focused on learning it, on slowly
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Full disclosure: I'm the 'E' in the above post, just in case.
One of the wonderful things about martial arts is that 'you have a whole lifetime' to figure it out and get good at it. My friend Tennis, who is an amazing swordsman and jujutsuka is very fond of reminding me of this when I mumble something about not having a technique just right.
It's a personal path, really, as with anything else, and as such you end up seeking fulfillment through your learning and not from someone else's praise (though a bit of that always helps in keeping you going.) You seek, or accept guidance from others who are more skilled or who have some insight you may have missed, but they're not the ones who define where you are going.
Taking the time to get it right is more important than just breezing through and superficially understanding it or making it 'look pretty.'
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My son's pediatrician told us that ASD children, because of motor control issues, did "well" in karate, Tae Kwon Do, or, at the other end, soccer.
So, I and my six year old went to Karate together. And I ended up being the only adult in the kids' class as a student.
He was enormously frustrated because *all* the other kids zipped past him, in obvious progress (belt colors), when he had been there the longest. And that? Was heartbreaking, for me. I didn't take the tests until he was judged ready to take them, so I stayed at his belt level.
But I would remind him, time and again, that some people are better at physical activities than others, and some are genuinely natively talented -- and that we (he and I) were not among those people, but that it didn't matter. There was no rush. It didn't matter if we learned the kata in one week or in two years - as long as we focused on learning it, on slowly ( ... )
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One of the wonderful things about martial arts is that 'you have a whole lifetime' to figure it out and get good at it. My friend Tennis, who is an amazing swordsman and jujutsuka is very fond of reminding me of this when I mumble something about not having a technique just right.
It's a personal path, really, as with anything else, and as such you end up seeking fulfillment through your learning and not from someone else's praise (though a bit of that always helps in keeping you going.) You seek, or accept guidance from others who are more skilled or who have some insight you may have missed, but they're not the ones who define where you are going.
Taking the time to get it right is more important than just breezing through and superficially understanding it or making it 'look pretty.'
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Also, your encyclopedic knowledge of roughly the first decade of MTV.
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You're awesome, and keep being so.
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