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[scgrl]

 As time goes by I find myself thinking about my mom's acceptance more and more.  Everything that involves our ceremony, reception, showers, or just talking about it with someone reminds me that in my mother's eyes I am a disappointment.  I try to not think about it so much but sometimes it's all I can do.  Anytime somebody new finds out about our

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[dreamsrundeep]

*hugs* Hang in there. I know how hurtful it can be to be planning one of these joyful occasions without familial support. One of my friends sat me down and told me that as long as you invite them, you give them the option to make the choice about how they want to preserve the relationship. You are forging/celebrating a new family you're creating/cementing. This is YOUR day and YOUR life with T. Be brave and irreverent in your love, stand up for it and try not to let it hurt you. (Easier said than done, I know.)

[scgrl]

Thank you for your very kind words. It is difficult but it is worth every struggle.

[genogizer]

Hey you.. that totally sucks about your mom (to state the obvious, right? hah) but hopefully she'll come around. My gf is having the same prob with her mom. Even though I've now transitioned to male, she still sees me as female, thus she's labeling her daughter as a lesbian. Even though we're not lesbians, it still sucks that she has that homophobia inside of her

[scgrl]

Thank you. To answer your question, yes I have tried writing a letter to my mom. In fact that is how I initially opened the door to our communication (or lack thereof) about my engagement and ceremony. I then gave her some time and followed it with a phone call. That was the last time we spoke and she had nothing to say to me.
I'm sorry to hear that your gf is going through a rough time with her mom. I hope that it all works out for the both of you.

[genogizer]

ugh. is your family all the same way? aside from your cousin or whoever it was that can't make it