B-A-B-Y M-A-M-A/ This goes out to all my baby mamas/ I've got love for all my baby mamas...

[scholarlady]

I reserve the right to define myself, among other rights, and I like to be respected. I happen to be female and I like it. Does that make me a feminist

Comments

[paresse]

Off-topic, but you totally got hogskin from Magdalene called Lena.

[scholarlady]

Yeah, I did. You got a prob with that? *hard stare*

[undomeramie]

I think that the reason more pro-lifers don't go after the fathers is that, not to perpetuate a steryotype, but in a whole lot of the situations in which women are considering abortions the father of the child isn't a huge part of their life. I might be wrong, but I think that in a marriage or another commited relationship the instance of abortion is most likely a lot lower. It would definately be better if these men cared more about the lives they were helping to create, but sadly that's a problem that extends way way beyond the idea of abortion. Also, it makes it hard to talk about how men need to take responsibility in this when one of the majour things that pro-choicers say to us is how it's all about the women, women's rights, women's choice, and so forth. When men try and get into the discussion, their opinions tend to be brushed off with the idea that because their men and don't get pregnant, they don't deserve any say in the matter. To an extend that's okay- I mean women should definately be the majour force behind whatever

[scholarlady]

"it makes it hard to talk about how men need to take responsibility in this when one of the majour things that pro-choicers say to us is how it's all about the women, women's rights, women's choice, and so forth."
You're totally right on that. I used to believe it, but I realized it's just not true. It's about women only because the impregnators ran away. I think much of the anger is not directed toward the lay-men, but toward the CongressMEN and other male policy-makers. Men don't have to deal with the possiblity of getting pregnant because society has made it solely the woman's responsibility. The decision to have (or not to have) a baby should be made jointly. If only there were a movement to make fathers share in pregnancy/responsiblity...

I don't know how I would deal with knowing that I am the product of casual sex and unwanted, though kept. Do you think it'd be okay for the kid psychologically?

[sara_the_lazy]

You bring up some good points there. I really agree that the choice should be made between both parents, if both are involved. I still think people should have the right to choose abortion, even though I don't think it's right or that I would do it. But adoption is much better...

~Sara

[mwuah]

*was adopted* silly college mommy got pregnant <.

[sara_the_lazy]

I'm pretty much in agreement with you. It makes a lot of sense... I personally don't know what i would do. I couldn't have an abortion. I guess I could give my child up for adoption... but I don't know that I could! I would probably want to raise him or her, even without the means to...

~Sara