Advice needed

Jun 29, 2008 18:01

So I dig this chick that a mate went out with ( Read more... )

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darskyl June 29 2008, 18:56:32 UTC
i would say it depends how good a mate he is. also try to suss out what she feels before saying anything to either him or her about it.

if possible, maybe try to have a word with him as to your intentions before talking to her. if he's horribly hung up still then it's up to you and weigh up the possibilities of your friendship versus your potential relationship with this girl. (if you just want to shag her as opposed to go out with her, don't even contemplate going there!!)

having a word with him first will limit his hurt of hearing through the grapevine or seeing you two out without prior knowledge.

Good luck, don't envy you the decision, have been there!

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subonfire June 29 2008, 22:20:36 UTC
Depends on two things: 1. how good a friend is he? Good friend? Don't go there. A friend you just sort of hang with sometimes? Then possible.

2. How much do you dig her? You fancy her? Don't go there. You think this is the love of your life? Fuck it, jump in both feet and hang the consequences.

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rayvanna June 30 2008, 08:19:01 UTC
I agree with the above. You know you're own mind though.

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dogwithoutlegs June 30 2008, 15:08:48 UTC
Talk to the friend, honestly and openly

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saoili July 1 2008, 12:10:32 UTC
I think you also need to consider how long he went out with her for, how long ago they broke up and who did the dumping. Basically, is it reasonable for him to still be hung up on her? Oh, and does he have any chance of getting her back? If he doesn't then you hooking up with her might actually help him get over something he needs to get over.

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