I don't want to be like Job

May 25, 2005 20:43

My cousin, who is my best friend must have the patience of Job because if I had to deal with her life I would have already killed someone, namely her ex husband. I hate him worse than I hate my own. Actually, I don't hate my own, I just dislike him intensely and we play nice for our children's sake. Okay, back to my cousin. She's four years younger ( Read more... )

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farsea May 26 2005, 03:27:54 UTC
FOURTH MARRIAGE??? My god...that sounds like the sort of nightmare that'd make you just want to go to sleep and never wake! I don't envy her.

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halvie May 26 2005, 10:39:01 UTC
Shan,
I've been wanting to ask a Westerner this question before so I'd love it if you would entertain me a while. :D
Is divorce a common thing? Something completely acceptable and such, to the extent that no one really cares if a couple who aren't married has (an illegitimate) child?
*stares*

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sdoah May 26 2005, 14:26:23 UTC
It's very common and getting more common. A couple that's not married having an illegitimate child is not as common, but becoming very common. People view it differently depending upon their religious backgrounds. I'm Pentecostal and while we don't agree with divorce and would like to prevent it at all costs we don't believe it's an unforgivable sin. Baptists in my area believe it's an unforgivable sin unless there was infidelity. Well, wait. Actually, the only way a Baptist can remarry and it not be sin is if it was a divorce due to cheating. If it wasn't due to cheating then they don't believe that person should remarry.

I'm divorced, only one mind you, and the only one I ever plan on having and no matter who looks at it, Catholic, Baptist, or Pentecostal mine is forgiven and I have the right to remarry since my ex-husband cheated. It can get a little complicated, but it's not so much cultural as religious depending upon how each person views it. We should chat sometime and you can ask me all the questions you have. *hugs*

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halvie May 27 2005, 06:18:29 UTC
*ggl*
Yes indeed we should. I love forward to it.
Because over here (I'm Baptist) we believe that divorce should never be practiced, no matter what. And I expect any divorcee would meet with much disapproval and disgust. But those perspectives are rapidly changing, due to the ever growing influence of the mass media. Western, specifically. :D

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sdoah May 27 2005, 14:24:58 UTC
Well, my ex-husband cheated on me numerous times, physically and verbally abused me, so I'm certain God would forgive me for my divorce and wouldn't want me staying in a relationship that was so detrimental to myself and my children. They did see him hit me on a couple of occassions and that was the last straw for me ( ... )

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sdoah May 27 2005, 14:27:00 UTC
Actually, I know He forgave me. In the book of Matthew Jesus states, that divorce is sin save for fornication, which means that if your spouse committed adultery then you have not sinned.

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