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[seaelleff]

adam and emily invaded my room tonight with two bottles of wine and crazy brilliant ideas about gender relations and male and female orgasms, in relation to the expectation of both when engaging in the sexual act. i was in my bathrobe and we just sat in my room and stained our teeth purple and talked. it was great. what brilliant gems they are. now

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[booojugendangst]

anna: it's totally normal. i do it all the time.

caro: i think my biggest discovery which in turn directly resulted in damn near complete comfort and worship of my own body was realizing that beauty is unlimited and common and the words "most" or "more" are not any words that should fall before "beauty." ever.

[booojugendangst]

p.s: what was the verdict on orgasms?

[seaelleff]

well, emily has an elaborate theory based around the fact that with having sex, men are expected to have an orgasm, whereas women are not. and if a woman has an orgasm, its like icing on the cake, but not the cake itself. and that a man having an orgasm is generally the end to a sexual act, whereas a woman having one is not (and yeah, men physically cant usually keep having sex after they come, but there are other ways to get a woman off).

anyway, blah blah blah, it all ties into patriarchy and the normalization of male sexuality as opposed to the mild terror of women's sexuality. and the expectations we have going into sex. like, it wouldn't hurt the man to stop having sex after the woman had an orgasm, but that never happens, ever, because its just expected that the man is going to have an orgasm.

its really fascinating actually, and emily and adam have been stewing over it for quite some time. you should ask that girl.

[ben1338605]

is this emily's theory, or just standard thought on the subject?

"it wouldn't hurt the man to stop having sex after the woman had an orgasm, but that never happens, ever"

that happens!

-butthead