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[seagoon]

Warning - contains discussion of bodies, brains and self-esteem. Feel free to move onSo, here we are, having a public holiday that still seems a little weird to me. Having spent so many years in Canberra, I tend to associate the Melbourne Cup with a half-arsed day at work that ends with chicken and champagne and a lazy afternoon. While a day off is

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[foxe]

you are enough for us, just as you are and without changing. If the rest of the world doesn't agree then screw them, I say! *sends All The Love*

[severina_242]

"it is tiresome being a resident of my brain sometimes." this, a thousand times, is me also. And I am also having so much trouble making peace with my 40 year old, heavier self, that I am back on a diet again. I think that I'm so much harder on myself than I am on anyone else - other people look fine to me, at pretty much any weight, but what I see in the mirror is another thing that is not considered or even *seen* in the same way.

Still reading. Hugs.

[anidan]

From my personal experience I agree with you that the "you're perfect as is" message is not helpful as intended. It feels like condescending pap. It feels false and the type of statement someone who doesn't experience depression makes.

I don't know what talking therapy you do, your mileage may vary, but my counsellor asked me to find one thing about myself I'm ok with. Not that I loved or thought was perfect, but just something I didn't hate. I think it helped me to find a starting point. Even if the only thing I like about me is my cheek bones :)

And yes, still reading.

[seedy_girl]

I still read (well, lurk) occasionally.

I also agree that the "you are perfect just as you are" is not really that helpful. I'm a fan of "you're not as bad as your brain makes you believe".

[pezzae]

Still reading, when the munchkins let me, just not regularly enough to actually respond in a timely manner.
I am not sure what the 'you're perfect' message is going for either. But I do think it's worthwhile to find things about yourself that you don't hate. Especially with the less-changeable bits of bodies. Thin and Beautiful is a mirage... (I have been there, and I spent most of the time wishing my boobs were bigger!) But wanting what you have, even as you aim for something more, is a great way to be happy. You may not be perfect, you may have broken bits, but you are Good Enough. I admire you trying to fix the broken bits, I hope that your repairs will increase your happiness, but I like you already. It is ok for you to like yourself already, even though you're not perfect. Does that seem like it makes sense?