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Lyssi's Memorial

Oct 21, 2006 10:05

I am making this a public entry in case someone knows of someone who may be referred here who could help. (For those who don't know it is a memorial service for Elyssami Faith who was miscarried last November ( Read more... )

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yeoww October 21 2006, 22:08:37 UTC

What about readings from the heart and the songs that make you think of her. Releasing balloons to the sky at the end?

these are things I saw at a baby's memorial once that were very moving.

anonymous October 27 2006, 14:44:09 UTC

I guess, do whatever feels right. Say something, let others say something if you want...you know what I like at funerals? Letting helium balloons go, as if the person's spirit is floating up towards heaven. That's a thought, anyway. Most of the funerals I've been to, there've been Bible readings. I've only been to one child's funeral (thank God) and some of his relatives spoke, as well as the funeral director. His mum was too emotional to say anything, so she had someone else read out something she'd written. I like your idea of candles.

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anonymous November 19 2006, 23:42:18 UTC

You, my dear, are an attention seeker.

You are having a memorial for a miscarriage that happened at 3 weeks of pregnancy! Try losing a child at 4 and a half months and then you'd have some idea what it's like to lose a baby. At three weeks, you wouldn't have even known you were pregnant, nevermind knowing that your baby was a girl. At three weeks you might have just got a heavy period, but it seems you've decided it was a miscarriage. Obviously your need for a child is intense, but is this really the right way to handle the lack of a child? Heaven forbid you actually get pregnant and have a child.

I wonder who you will invite to such a memorial. Surely you realise how silly this will look to other people.

I realise the harsh nature of my comments, but if I can get you to consider, even momentarily, the rediculous side to this, then my comment has been worth it. Perhaps you should endeavour to speak with a counsellor about your issues.

Tina

searchingstars November 20 2006, 09:09:26 UTC

First, I don't like being called 'my dear' by someone who is obviously tongue in cheek about it. Second, I love how you judge me to be an attention seeker without actually knowing me ( ... )